The Dealmaker
by Katy Franklin.
In my last article, “The Dealbreaker,” someone posted a comment suggesting my next one be about “DealMAKERS.” I thought that was a great idea. Instead of being so negative, and discussing how guys can turn us off, I wanted to show some ways in which guys can turn us ON. So now, I give you “Dealmakers,” otherwise known as 50 things guys can do to make us smile, make us sit up and pay attention, make us think twice about them, or even make us fall in love with them.
He has great teeth
He opens the car door for you (even if you’d rather get it yourself, you have to admit it’s a sweet, old-fashioned gesture.)
He asks your drink and then gets one for you
He talks fondly (but not too much) about his ex-girlfriend
He gets tested if you ask him to, or, better yet, he already has been tested
He looks you in the eye frequently
He’s funny
He thinks you’re funny and laughs at your jokes - I dated a comedian once, for a brief amount of time. His humor was fantastic, and it was such a nice compliment when I would actually make him laugh
He’s shorter than you, taller than you, or just your height
He likes his job, and you actually enjoy listening to him talk about it
He doesn’t work too much or weird hours
He dresses well
He’s close with his family
He ignores his cell phone when he’s with you - It’s always nice to feel like you take precedence over some phone call. But some calls are emergencies, and it’s always nice to ask or politely excuse yourself if you need to take it
He’s not afraid to embarrass himself in front of other people
He’s nice and charming when he meets your friends
He has a lot of frequent flier miles
He’ll run out to the store to get you something you need, or if you just have a craving
He has an accent
He’s fluent in another language - Spanish is sexy. French is sexy. Italian is sexy. Hell, pig latin can be sexy if you’re good enough at it
He likes animals
He’s good with kids
He’s a good dancer
On your first date, he takes you somewhere not too casual and not too fancy
He’s athletic
He always lets you offer to pay, but never actually lets you (well maybe once in awhile)
He’s great in bed
He’s adventurous and spontaneous-he wouldn’t bat an eye if you wanted to go cliffdiving or eat alligator - My dad once offered to take his date on a trip to Italy. That was on their second date. They went to Florence for their third date, and they’ve now been married for three years.
You’re able to become friends with his friends
He’s cool with you going out, even if he doesn’t want to, and vice versa
He cooks for you (whether he actually can or not)
He drives a nice car (it doesn’t have to be a ferrari, but a nice, clean vehicle is always appreciated)
He has the same taste in music and movies that you do
He sticks up for you
He has goals in life, and goes after what he wants
He will stop and ask for directions
He surprises you and keeps you on your toes
He gives good massages
He holds your hand
He holds your hair back if you’ve had too much to drink
He’s not obsessed with myspace, facebook, etc…
He doesn’t check out other girls-when he’s with you
He looks good with his shirt off
He carries your bags for you
He gets 12 of his biggest, buffest friends to help you move and never complains about it
He’s intelligent and can carry on a conversation
He’s worldly
He’ll go shopping with you
He relocates for you
He doesn’t snore or hog the bed
He adores you
About the author: Katy is an aspiring writer who just moved to LA from New York City. She used to work in the entertainment industry, but is now trying to figure out her life and what her next step may be! She loves movies, reading, writing and taco bell, and is enjoying getting to know LA.
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August 9th, 2008 at 8:56 pm
Here’s one.
He’s super rich and has terminal cancer with maybe a week to live and you’re in the will.
August 10th, 2008 at 7:16 pm
How important is a big c–k?
August 11th, 2008 at 4:57 am
wow!!!!!
is that true?
August 12th, 2008 at 12:41 am
Love it! Especially the cooking one. My adorable, but kitchen-phobic bf, lost a bet and made me dinner. Not only did we discover his hidden talent for quesadilla making, but he looked cute while slaving over a hot stove.
Great article, love to read more….
August 12th, 2008 at 7:01 pm
I loved the optimism and positivity of this article. It can give guys an idea of what women want out of them without them thinking they have to totally change who they are. Great job!
August 12th, 2008 at 8:26 pm
You have just described me to the “t”, now if I could find a woman who actually looked for the aforementioned qualities!
August 13th, 2008 at 3:00 am
Here are a few more:
1) He calls when he says that he will.
2) He has told his friends and family about you.
3) He prefers time with you more than time with the boys.
4) He races ahead to open doors for you.
5) He doesn’t mess with the stations in your car when he drives.
6) He brings you flowers on more than just your anniversary and birthday.
7) He keeps your picture in his wallet and also on his desk where other women can see.
August 13th, 2008 at 4:27 pm
my!!
dis is like a guide for being sucessful with girls and for free!!!
i’ll look for these advices next time i’d go on hunting.
cheers
Pablo
August 14th, 2008 at 11:11 am
great post, i love it
August 14th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
Liked your blog.
August 15th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
Sounds like you’re extremely picky. All men have faults, but you’re trying to get the perfect one. What’s make you such a great catch, anyway.?This comes off as snobbish, I must be blunt. In Russia, if women have two feet, like to drink vodka and don’t have too large of a mustache, we consider that a keeper! Get over yourslef.
August 15th, 2008 at 6:11 pm
ya i totaly agree with tat
August 18th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
Ugh did not want to come across this post after the one I just wrote about relationships on my blog! I agree with the very first comment (Sue) wholeheartedly though!
August 18th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
I’ve found that guy!!! the sad thing is that hes not mine, hes just my friend with benefits, and hes sooo perfect! any ideas on how to make him fall for me?
August 19th, 2008 at 9:35 am
nice post.
August 20th, 2008 at 5:11 pm
This is a great post. I like it.
August 20th, 2008 at 5:20 pm
99% won’t fit that bill!
August 21st, 2008 at 8:28 am
I’m not too sure about talking fondly about an ex. That could be a major turn off.
August 22nd, 2008 at 1:12 am
Great teeth is what I love. And you must have this. This is how I met my gorgeous hulk. He has a perfect set of beautiful white teeth. A nice body works too and a sensational smile. All women love this….
August 22nd, 2008 at 3:43 pm
I am so happy this lame posting is no longer at the top of this site. What a piece of hoo-ha this is!
August 22nd, 2008 at 5:05 pm
Great teeth is a definite must! This was just a sampling of possible “good” things-let me know what you think!
September 24th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
This is great! We’re so fixated on the negatives in our lives - to focus on appreciating our man and men in general, on loving what’s right in front of us - that’s the way to make MORE of the good things.
September 24th, 2008 at 5:55 pm
Great positive post! Too often we think about what we don’t instead of what we do want.
October 13th, 2008 at 6:30 am
Now to find a woman, that’s the problem…
October 13th, 2008 at 8:21 am
I loved the optimism and positivity of this article. It can give guys an idea of what women want out of them without them thinking they have to totally change who they are. Great job!
October 22nd, 2008 at 6:30 pm
If you fit the bill to a “T” your’re a pussy. Women should appriciate their men much more and the things we do on a daily basis. What has she done for me to deserve to be treated this well. This is a pipe dream of the female based media, the Oprha’s, Ellen, Tyra, shows that depict men a sniviling little boys who can’t do anything without a women. Most women don’t like men to be succesful but sure want to spend our money because it involves sacrifice in the begining and most women don’t want to wait they just want the rewards without paying the price for admission. Thats why we divorce you at 40 something and trade up to a 25yr old with a rockin body and no desire to have kids and when she gets the itch or to comfortable we trade her in for another 25yr old gotta love the smell of new leather and when it starts to get a little worn trade it in.
December 31st, 2008 at 4:21 pm
nice article and i interested with reading it
January 9th, 2009 at 7:07 pm
I’ll settle for mutal love and respect. I’ve always been taught….. you get what you give.
foot rubs, nice massages and all those other frills are just added bonuses
February 9th, 2009 at 7:06 pm
I think the idea behind the post is good for those guys out there that are missing all of the things on your list. However, the realism of your post is somewhat lacking. It would be impossible for someone to have all those qualities to a “T”, but there are guys out there that will fake it to land you and that’s how you spell “the end” before it even begins. The part that I found personally disheartening is that you never once mentioned the man’s mind and that is the first thing I look at (past the initial attraction), in women. I am an old school chivalrist with a good mind, goal oriented, good career, an average athletic body, that can dance and loves the arts and traveling. I am good looking to boot, but I lose my women to men that have no jobs, live with their mama, have chiseled abs, drinks like a fish, parties hard and has a nice car that ends up costing them their entire salary. Hmmmm…. Reality check anyone? When is it going to be that women start looking past the flash and get to know and respect men for what their qualities really are again? Attracting the women is the hard part for real men because we actually spend our time bettering ourselves, but the fake ones have no problems because they spend all their free time chiseling their abs. Have women become this shallow? If you want the whole package, then why not date the imperfect superman and help him become more for you with quality time, joint adventures, and reality? Just my opinion.
May 14th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
Hey did we forget and he is honest!!!!