Comments on: How to nose around without being too nosy – A dating guide http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/ True Dating Horror Stories and Tips from Real People Thu, 28 Aug 2008 04:18:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: DateGirl http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21055 DateGirl Fri, 18 Apr 2008 21:39:03 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21055 This is great! With all the online dating that goes on now, it's good to be prepared. You really do have to be a detective don't you. One thing I always look for is hmmm your myspace has tons of slutty girls commenting on your page all the time? Red flag!! This is great! With all the online dating that goes on now, it’s good to be prepared. You really do have to be a detective don’t you. One thing I always look for is hmmm your myspace has tons of slutty girls commenting on your page all the time? Red flag!!

]]> By: Dave http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21068 Dave Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:54:14 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21068 Suggesting people can a date's employer and imply that he/she is looking for another job is a terrible idea. If you want to get to know the person, go on a date. If you think he/she is sketchy, don't. But don't risk his/her next raise/promotion by creating the false impression that he/she is looking for a different job. I'd be livid if some girl trying this stunt with me... The author may not value her waitress job, but the men who pay for her dates certainly value their careers. Suggesting people can a date’s employer and imply that he/she is looking for another job is a terrible idea. If you want to get to know the person, go on a date. If you think he/she is sketchy, don’t. But don’t risk his/her next raise/promotion by creating the false impression that he/she is looking for a different job. I’d be livid if some girl trying this stunt with me… The author may not value her waitress job, but the men who pay for her dates certainly value their careers.

]]> By: Steve Hedger http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21110 Steve Hedger Sat, 19 Apr 2008 21:26:52 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21110 Always check out who you are meeting. One of my clients once turned up on a date and it was not him. Well it was him he had used his good looking mate photo to get him the date. Always check out who you are meeting. One of my clients once turned up on a date and it was not him. Well it was him he had used his good looking mate photo to get him the date.

]]> By: Barry http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21268 Barry Mon, 21 Apr 2008 14:12:06 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21268 Or... they could come by my pace (no, that isn't a pickup line) I am referring to my blog - you can run a background check straight from there! :) Or… they could come by my pace (no, that isn’t a pickup line) I am referring to my blog - you can run a background check straight from there! :)

]]> By: Martin Welch http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21317 Martin Welch Tue, 22 Apr 2008 00:37:46 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21317 Right, it's important that you know who you are dating with. Have some background check about him. There are some people that will take advantage, especially if you just meet through online. :) Right, it’s important that you know who you are dating with. Have some background check about him. There are some people that will take advantage, especially if you just meet through online. :)

]]> By: EX-nice guy http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21456 EX-nice guy Wed, 23 Apr 2008 04:48:04 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21456 Wow Rose (if that is your real name). CSI called, they want their junior forensics scientist badge back. Turns out you've been kicked of the force. Wow Rose (if that is your real name). CSI called, they want their junior forensics scientist badge back. Turns out you’ve been kicked of the force.

]]> By: Meg http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21576 Meg Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:42:44 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21576 Whoa, calling the guy's work and pretending to be a potiential employer is such an AWFUL idea! Forget how underhanded you're being... Supposing his employer takes your call seriously and thinks your date is planning to leave his job? You could really hurt someone's career with your paranoia. Whatever happened to the old-fashioned method of going on a date and chatting with a guy? Whoa, calling the guy’s work and pretending to be a potiential employer is such an AWFUL idea! Forget how underhanded you’re being… Supposing his employer takes your call seriously and thinks your date is planning to leave his job? You could really hurt someone’s career with your paranoia.

Whatever happened to the old-fashioned method of going on a date and chatting with a guy?

]]> By: Tom Brown http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21594 Tom Brown Thu, 24 Apr 2008 11:29:31 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21594 Ive done a fair amount of online and offline dating in the UK and Japan. Ive never met anyone who lied prolificly and I don't know any men who would tell big lies, rent a car for a date or borrow an apartment. I really cant understand the logic behind it. If you want a long relationship its never going to wash in the long term and you can't build a relationship on lies. If you're just trying to seduce an attractive man/woman for a short-term sexual relationship you'd be better off just pulling someone in a bar that getting someone involved emotionally. I can't think of anything worse than living in a culture so full of fake people. You'd be better off living in a cave on hill. Ive done a fair amount of online and offline dating in the UK and Japan. Ive never met anyone who lied prolificly and I don’t know any men who would tell big lies, rent a car for a date or borrow an apartment. I really cant understand the logic behind it. If you want a long relationship its never going to wash in the long term and you can’t build a relationship on lies. If you’re just trying to seduce an attractive man/woman for a short-term sexual relationship you’d be better off just pulling someone in a bar that getting someone involved emotionally.
I can’t think of anything worse than living in a culture so full of fake people. You’d be better off living in a cave on hill.

]]> By: Lee Coles http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21771 Lee Coles Fri, 25 Apr 2008 18:35:36 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-21771 Good tips 15MD, and great for guys to know. Good tips 15MD, and great for guys to know.

]]> By: Jason http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22016 Jason Mon, 28 Apr 2008 11:50:25 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22016 Good stuff. I'd like to add that many legitimately successful guys are either modest, or simply wary of attracting women that want them for their money/status. So any successful, desirable guy that is looking online for love is probably not going to showboat at all. Good stuff. I’d like to add that many legitimately successful guys are either modest, or simply wary of attracting women that want them for their money/status. So any successful, desirable guy that is looking online for love is probably not going to showboat at all.

]]> By: Chrys http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22167 Chrys Wed, 30 Apr 2008 05:15:42 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22167 Its ok to be aware that their some people who lie in their profile but im not telling all people. We can not deny that they lied, maybe because they are ashamed of what they are or boost their image. Its ok to be aware that their some people who lie in their profile but im not telling all people. We can not deny that they lied, maybe because they are ashamed of what they are or boost their image.

]]> By: washwords http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22681 washwords Fri, 02 May 2008 03:21:10 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-22681 ew. ew ew. so lying is deplorable, if you're an "unemployed creep" a la david. lying, if you're a complete and total stranger about to go on a date with someone for the first time and call said unkown stranger's PLACE OF WORK, impersonate someone else to get info. and imply this person you're about to meet for the first time is a-ok? eek. I'm not sayin there aren't creepazoids out there. There are. And if someone called my place of employment pretending to be another employer, I'd not only not EVER be meeting that person for a date, I'd be looking into restraining orders or other protections. eek-a-rama. Why not just do what others here have suggested, proceed with eyes open in getting to know each other SLOWLY, cautiously, but with some faith in man(and woman) kind, until proven otherwise? It's pretty easy really to tell the creepazoids, actually. they... make you feel... bad. stop dating them or sharing info. with them. p.s. "david" sounds nice. I'd rather date him than an investment banker everyday o the week and twice on sundays. especially if his foot fetish means he likes rubbing mine. ;) that is I WOULD like david were I not attached, to someone (here's a hint) i did NOT meet online. happy dating! ;) ew. ew ew. so lying is deplorable, if you’re an “unemployed creep” a la david.

lying, if you’re a complete and total stranger about to go on a date with someone for the first time and call said unkown stranger’s PLACE OF WORK, impersonate someone else to get info. and imply this person you’re about to meet for the first time is a-ok? eek.

I’m not sayin there aren’t creepazoids out there. There are. And if someone called my place of employment pretending to be another employer, I’d not only not EVER be meeting that person for a date, I’d be looking into restraining orders or other protections. eek-a-rama.

Why not just do what others here have suggested, proceed with eyes open in getting to know each other SLOWLY, cautiously, but with some faith in man(and woman) kind, until proven otherwise? It’s pretty easy really to tell the creepazoids, actually. they… make you feel… bad. stop dating them or sharing info. with them.

p.s. “david” sounds nice. I’d rather date him than an investment banker everyday o the week and twice on sundays. especially if his foot fetish means he likes rubbing mine. ;) that is I WOULD like david were I not attached, to someone (here’s a hint) i did NOT meet online.

happy dating! ;)

]]> By: Amy http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-23531 Amy Sun, 04 May 2008 23:18:02 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-23531 Since I am just beginning to date again after a divorce this is sound advice. I google every guy I go out with! I haven't found very much information which may or may not be a good thing. Since I am just beginning to date again after a divorce this is sound advice. I google every guy I go out with! I haven’t found very much information which may or may not be a good thing.

]]> By: Allison Ward http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-24986 Allison Ward Mon, 12 May 2008 13:58:25 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-24986 Hi Rose I have got to say your article above is excellent advice, but could I also add, Check them out, there is a old saying among journalists, “your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for online dating or real world dating too. Don’t take every thing the other person says is true, what you could do for your homework on a person is jot down whatever details the person chooses to reveal about him or her self. Then after two or three encounters again repeat the questions and see if the two answers match, then you can start to build a picture of that person to see if he or she is lying or not. Hi Rose
I have got to say your article above is excellent advice, but could I also add,
Check them out, there is a old saying among journalists, “your mother says she loves you but check it out.” That is good advice for online dating or real world dating too.

Don’t take every thing the other person says is true, what you could do for your homework on a person is jot down whatever details the person chooses to reveal about him or her self.

Then after two or three encounters again repeat the questions and see if the two answers match, then you can start to build a picture of that person to see if he or she is lying or not.

]]> By: nancy http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-25576 nancy Sun, 18 May 2008 05:27:05 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-25576 I always run them through publicdata.com low cost for a membership and you can check civil records/criminal records/voter registration and then go to the county appraisal district and see if they own the home they say is theirs. I always run them through publicdata.com low cost for a membership and you can check civil records/criminal records/voter registration and then go to the county appraisal district and see if they own the home they say is theirs.

]]> By: Dating Headshots http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-27330 Dating Headshots Tue, 27 May 2008 21:22:45 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-27330 The answer to anything can be found by "Googling it" so that's a good place to start. After that you can hit the MySpace and Facebook like the article says. Almost everyone is on some social networking site nowdays. Beyond that, you're snooping a little too much, especially if you're calling their workplace. I find that the most common "lie" people use on their profiles is to use a photo of themselves from three years ago, which is technically a lie because it is them. Just not anymore. The answer to anything can be found by “Googling it” so that’s a good place to start. After that you can hit the MySpace and Facebook like the article says. Almost everyone is on some social networking site nowdays. Beyond that, you’re snooping a little too much, especially if you’re calling their workplace. I find that the most common “lie” people use on their profiles is to use a photo of themselves from three years ago, which is technically a lie because it is them. Just not anymore.

]]> By: Aish http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-29054 Aish Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:26:24 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-29054 How did our parents get married without the net? They networked via things like church, synagogues, orgn's that did good things or with ppl they had alot in common with. How did our parents get married without the net? They networked via things like church, synagogues, orgn’s that did good things or with ppl they had alot in common with.

]]> By: Successindating http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-35189 Successindating Thu, 10 Jul 2008 22:53:30 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-35189 Yeah people may lie and brag about accomplishments that dont exist! Yeah people may lie and brag about accomplishments that dont exist!

]]> By: DH http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-35740 DH Mon, 14 Jul 2008 07:17:07 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-35740 Thanks for the tips, but I do think that calling the employer is a bit excessive! I prefer to check all my dates out with a phone conversation. You can tell a lot about a person from the way they speak - are they nervous? stuttering? abrupt? confident? can they hold a conversation? It's a great time to get the preliminary information, and if you choose to meet them for a date see if they can keep their facts straight! Also don't be afraid to ask things flat out! I met a guy online who said he was "divorced" after two questions he told me, he had been divorced three times. Combined with the fact that his online pics were ten years old, I was outta there! Now I always ask divorced men, "How many times?" Just remember, most people don't expect to be put on the spot. Thanks for the tips, but I do think that calling the employer is a bit excessive! I prefer to check all my dates out with a phone conversation. You can tell a lot about a person from the way they speak - are they nervous? stuttering? abrupt? confident? can they hold a conversation?

It’s a great time to get the preliminary information, and if you choose to meet them for a date see if they can keep their facts straight!

Also don’t be afraid to ask things flat out! I met a guy online who said he was “divorced” after two questions he told me, he had been divorced three times. Combined with the fact that his online pics were ten years old, I was outta there!
Now I always ask divorced men, “How many times?”

Just remember, most people don’t expect to be put on the spot.

]]> By: Tim http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-38213 Tim Sun, 27 Jul 2008 18:40:54 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-38213 Good stuff :p Good stuff :p

]]> By: Carrie http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-42907 Carrie Mon, 25 Aug 2008 15:26:07 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2008/04/15/how-to-nose-around-without-being-too-nosy-%e2%80%93-a-dating-guide/#comment-42907 I once spent several months in a fairly serious relationship with a guy I met online who had lied about graduating from college. He was close to graduating but hadn't quite finished. Unfortunately, he lost his job and realized he needed to go back and finish up and dumped me rather than just confessing the truth. I feel bad... I think the guy just... exaggerated without thinking and then before he knew it was in too deep to fix it. But whatever. It pretty much ruined my trust. I never tried internet dating again. I once spent several months in a fairly serious relationship with a guy I met online who had lied about graduating from college. He was close to graduating but hadn’t quite finished. Unfortunately, he lost his job and realized he needed to go back and finish up and dumped me rather than just confessing the truth. I feel bad… I think the guy just… exaggerated without thinking and then before he knew it was in too deep to fix it. But whatever. It pretty much ruined my trust.

I never tried internet dating again.

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