The 15 Minute Dating Blog

by Joshua Thompson.

Buddha said, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Our thoughts honestly control what we do. There is plenty of material written on this. So I won’t get into it too much.

We are a product of what we think…but also what we feel. And I think our feelings aren’t focused on enough.

Honestly, we are mostly emotionally beings. We act based on thoughts, we react based on emotions. Our emotions can stimulate us to do things. They can also stimulate us to ignore reason.

This is the idea that women can really mess you up…because you don’t think logically. Your control is overrun by your emotional language.

But how does this apply to your dating?

Once in a while I’ll see a type of girl. She is decent looking, and I get to know her a bit. I never realized what she did, but I always found her so attractive. I really just wanted to make out with her right there, right when I barely know her. I never knew why.

Until one day I realized it, and I saw what she was doing.

She knew how to speak to me, emotionally.

She would get close, and touch me often. In my mind I could see her looking at me with passion, like she just wanted to go…

She was making me react to her emotional language.

So I started doing this, and the results were phenomenal.

Whenever I approached a girl I would look at her like I just wanted to kiss her. I started moving my head in a little, and using my thoughts to control my actions.

In my mind I would picture us kissing. I would think about that, and I would tell myself that was exactly what she was thinking.

They would react almost always the same way. Emotionally, with the same look that I was getting from the decent chick that I met before.

It was a freaking charm!!!

So there are two things that we can control here; our thoughts and our emotional language.

With our thoughts we give ourselves confidence and focus on speaking with our emotions. With our emotions we can speak directly to the woman. Attraction is the language of emotions.

We cannot attract with reason, it just doesn’t work. The next time a girl tries to talk you into liking her you’ll know what I mean…you’ll just get sick of it.

So we need to harness the power of our thoughts, by focusing on what we are actually communicating emotionally.

Using emotional language will get you so much further in your dating life…

Now there are some key ways to stimulate an emotional response. We call these responses sensual…because they are derived from the senses.

Taste, smell, touch, hearing, and sight.

Using these senses will really up your emotional language and what you are speaking. Here are some brief examples.

Taste and smell- These two are very closely related. When you smell something, you can taste it. So one key step to speaking emotionally is to shower, use deodorant, and a good cologne. Cologne’s are designed to stimulate the emotions. I recommend Aqua Di Gio or Hollister’s Jake. Everyone will also tell you that a great way to meet girls it to go cologne shopping at the mall and ask girls which fragrances they like best.

Touch- Using a touch now and then on the thigh, arm, or neck is a great way to stimulate emotions. Behind the ears, pulling the hair on the back of the neck; you’ve probably heard these or variations used quite often. They aren’t a golden fix to attraction problems, but coupled with other steps it will really up your value.

Hearing- This is a tough one to use, but your tones and your breathing can say so much, even if it’s not direct. These two things can really tell a girl how much confidence you have. Being calm and having a steady voice will speak right to a woman’s emotional core. It tells so much about a person the way they speak.

Sight-Obviously sight is one of the most important factors, especially right off. Your appearance will probably say 90 percent of everything for you right up front. Find some style, and be yourself with what you wear. Meaning make sure you can “pull off” what you are wearing. Leaning in while you speak, standing tall and confident, and what your body is saying. All these things go into your emotional speech.

Your emotional speech is so key to really speaking; to really say what you want to say. This is because attraction is an emotional language. But just like any language, it is leaned best through communication…so get out of your house and start trying to speak it.

It will take time just like everything else, but the more you speak the more fluent you will get.

And you WILL see results. Because this is the true language of attraction.

So get up…and go DO something to get better.

No really…leave…

About the author: Joshua loves music…that’s what he does. He plays guitar all the time and he’s always jamming out to his ipod. But you gotta get paid. So along side his little bro he got involved in the mortgage business… Currently He has some fresh ideas for business that He’s about to take off on…He loves trying new stuff.

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