The 15 Minute Dating Blog

by Chania

Well, dating is never easy when you’re 16 and desperately want a boyfriend, but it can get much more difficult if you’re very naive and with your head in the clouds.

I had my first boyfriend at 15 (it only lasted a month and a half), and I can’t possible imagine what I saw in him then. But at that moment I was so eager to have a boyfriend that I was literally “blind”. One afternoon, after waiting 3 or 4 days for him to call, I simply got out of the house, in spite of my father’s warnings that it is embarrassing for a girl to look for a boy and to contact him, and that she should wait (“That’s what I have been doing for 3 days, dad! I want to see him!” Man, how desperate it sounds now…) and I went to his block of flats. I knew that at that hour (around 6.30 pm) he should be outside with the boys, playing football. But nobody was there, probably because it was dark and cold.

So I went home, almost crying and crawled in bed. The next day he called me, very innocent, to see how I was, saying “I saw you yesterday from the window, were you missing me?”… I felt really ashamed and didn’t know what to say, he had smelled the situation exactly. Only then it struck me that my father was right, and that so called boyfriend of mine was mocking me. It didn’t last longer after, because he already had his eyes on another classmate of mine.

When I was in the tenth grade, I met a boy, about 4-5 years older than I was and we spent some nice evenings in the park, walking and talking about rock music mostly. It lasted for about 2 weeks; it was just before the end of the summer vacation, so he had to leave back to college, in another town (some 200 miles away).

I really really liked him (or probably the attention he gave, now come to think about it) but he didn’t contact me at all, although he had promised to come in the winter vacation and spend holidays with me. That’s why when he called, 2 months later, I didn’t recognized him on the phone so he took advantage of this, and said he was a secret admirer of mine and wanted to invite me out (he liked to play pranks). I wanted to know his name and if he was in the same high school with me, but he said I’ll find out if I wanted to see him. He asked me if I had a boyfriend, because he had heard I was with somebody and my answer was “Well there is somebody, but he’s not very important, he’s far away”. So when he said, “That non-important guy is on the phone and is glad to know your opinion about him” I felt the ground cracking beneath my feet because of the shame.

Another embarrassing moment passed when I was dating a guy in high school (which I liked mainly for his blue eyes and blonde curly hair – my tastes have changed significantly since) and an ex-boyfriend (also blue-eyed and blonde, hehe) I had a crush on for more than a year came in town for a week. My ex called me to go for a walk and catch up. So while we were walking, it was a really chilly afternoon, he gave me his coat, and guess who was coming from the opposite direction right that instant? My official boyfriend, who pretended not to see me. It’s futile to say who got ditched the next day, but I’ll say it anyway: me! This is the disadvantage of living in a small city, where you can’t cross the street without meeting someone you know (definitely a bad environment for cheating).

I blame these and many other embarrassing stuff I’ve been thru on excessive timidity and naiveté (and on that evil impulse of not being faithful), but things got better in time, I’m much more self-secure and experienced now (and can control my unfaithful impulses), although I think in some strange way I’m prone to goofy events and lame moments.

Lucky for me, I don’t need to experience dating shame&horror anymore, because I have been with a brown-eyed dark hair boy for quite some years now (I had my share of embarrassing moments with him at the beginning, but they are to embarrassing to be told here, hehe).

About the author: Chania lives in Bucharest, Romania. She owns a baby blog (not a blog for babies, but a blog which is still in its beginnings) and works in the GIS industry. She loves mmorpg games (Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games, such as Guild Wars) and lucky for her, her boyfriend loves them too. She also enjoys cooking, but only when the PC is occupied and she can’t play. Her blog is at http://www.pure-eyecontact.blogspot.com.

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