Comments on: Happily Single – It’s Not a Myth http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/ True Dating Horror Stories and Tips from Real People Sat, 11 Oct 2008 09:14:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Olga, the Traveling Bra http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13338 Olga, the Traveling Bra Thu, 06 Dec 2007 16:00:55 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13338 I have had the good fortune to meet and become friends with Brenda online through our blogs. She is a funny, articulate, intelligent woman who's blog I enjoy reading on a daily basis! Brenda ia living proof that having a mate is not a requirement for being a happy, fulfilled, complete person! It's a matter of personal preference - to each his or her own! Great article!!! ~Shawn I have had the good fortune to meet and become friends with Brenda online through our blogs. She is a funny, articulate, intelligent woman who’s blog I enjoy reading on a daily basis! Brenda ia living proof that having a mate is not a requirement for being a happy, fulfilled, complete person! It’s a matter of personal preference - to each his or her own! Great article!!!
~Shawn

]]> By: jessie http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13347 jessie Thu, 06 Dec 2007 18:10:33 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13347 i was about to post a related article in my blog but in a different context... i love ur blog. it's personal and inspirational i was about to post a related article in my blog but in a different context… i love ur blog. it’s personal and inspirational

]]> By: Barbara http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13356 Barbara Thu, 06 Dec 2007 21:27:15 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13356 EXCELLENT! I love every word of this. I have to admit, I have been both happily and unhappily single in my life but have come to realize that the happy part and the single part have nothing to do with each other, as this wise woman has pointed out! This is must reading for singles so ya just know I am gonna link to it! :) EXCELLENT! I love every word of this. I have to admit, I have been both happily and unhappily single in my life but have come to realize that the happy part and the single part have nothing to do with each other, as this wise woman has pointed out! This is must reading for singles so ya just know I am gonna link to it! :)

]]> By: Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13370 Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" Fri, 07 Dec 2007 01:53:27 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13370 This post makes more sense than I've heard in a long time. Key here, is that a mate does not make a person, nor make them happy. Take two happy single people. If they hit it off, there's a good chance. When someone needs another to depend on for self worth and fulfillment, it really spells disaster. A woman not looking for a sexual realationship is just that. Why would anyone want to change it? If that's what she comfortable with, I say that's fine! This post makes more sense than I’ve heard in a long time.
Key here, is that a mate does not make a person, nor make them happy. Take two happy single people. If they hit it off, there’s a good chance. When someone needs another to depend on for self worth and fulfillment, it really spells disaster.
A woman not looking for a sexual realationship is just that. Why would anyone want to change it? If that’s what she comfortable with, I say that’s fine!

]]> By: Barbara Doduk http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13373 Barbara Doduk Fri, 07 Dec 2007 02:31:18 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13373 It is so true, if you aren't happy with yourself in single mode, how can you be happy in a relationship. Great post. I can see why Billy presented you the Love award. It is so true, if you aren’t happy with yourself in single mode, how can you be happy in a relationship. Great post. I can see why Billy presented you the Love award.

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13389 DrowseyMonkey Fri, 07 Dec 2007 06:35:08 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13389 Olga - thanks...that is such a sweet thing to say! Jessie - thank you! Barbara - you're right happy, single, has nothing to do with each other. But I'm not sure about me being wise! But thanks! Eric - wise words...thanks. Barbara - thanks...not sure who Billy is but...thanks, lol. Olga - thanks…that is such a sweet thing to say!

Jessie - thank you!

Barbara - you’re right happy, single, has nothing to do with each other. But I’m not sure about me being wise! But thanks!

Eric - wise words…thanks.

Barbara - thanks…not sure who Billy is but…thanks, lol.

]]> By: Adrian Keys http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13441 Adrian Keys Sat, 08 Dec 2007 03:56:02 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13441 I like the post but wonder if the "happily single" position amounts to a defence mechanism....a defence to ward off undesirable suitors... I like the post but wonder if the “happily single” position amounts to a defence mechanism….a defence to ward off undesirable suitors…

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13483 DrowseyMonkey Sat, 08 Dec 2007 21:15:48 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13483 I'm not sure how being happy with yourself wards off undesirable suitors...I don't think I understand what that means. I'd certainly be up for a desirable suitor...if by that you mean date...but if by suitor you mean possible husband...NOPE. I’m not sure how being happy with yourself wards off undesirable suitors…I don’t think I understand what that means. I’d certainly be up for a desirable suitor…if by that you mean date…but if by suitor you mean possible husband…NOPE.

]]> By: KC http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13664 KC Tue, 11 Dec 2007 17:48:34 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13664 maybe you just haven't been approached by the right guy?? maybe you just haven’t been approached by the right guy??

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13690 DrowseyMonkey Wed, 12 Dec 2007 02:28:27 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13690 Maybe...but I guess my point is that that's okay. I'm not going to put my life on hold until that right guy comes along. I know a few people who seem to do that and I don't quite understand that way of thinking. The reality is there are a lot of people who have never, and will never, meet that right person...and my point is that that's okay. You can still enjoy life. I know a lot of people disagree with me...but that's okay too. Maybe…but I guess my point is that that’s okay. I’m not going to put my life on hold until that right guy comes along. I know a few people who seem to do that and I don’t quite understand that way of thinking.

The reality is there are a lot of people who have never, and will never, meet that right person…and my point is that that’s okay. You can still enjoy life.

I know a lot of people disagree with me…but that’s okay too.

]]> By: Mrs. Micah http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13962 Mrs. Micah Sun, 16 Dec 2007 04:17:07 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-13962 I have a good friend from college who I honestly believe will never end up dating/living with/marrying anybody. She's very much the celibate type. I don't think that people who know her in real life would want to change that about her. She's happy, she's herself, she's who she is. People online who don't know her might have an easy time throwing around accusations, insinuations, or asking her whether she hasn't met the right guy...the difficulty of such venues is that the people haven't interacted with the person in question and can only work of preconceptions. I don't know if people who say they're happily single are lying or not--at least not until I've developed a long relationship with them, as I did with her. I have a good friend from college who I honestly believe will never end up dating/living with/marrying anybody. She’s very much the celibate type. I don’t think that people who know her in real life would want to change that about her. She’s happy, she’s herself, she’s who she is.

People online who don’t know her might have an easy time throwing around accusations, insinuations, or asking her whether she hasn’t met the right guy…the difficulty of such venues is that the people haven’t interacted with the person in question and can only work of preconceptions. I don’t know if people who say they’re happily single are lying or not–at least not until I’ve developed a long relationship with them, as I did with her.

]]> By: Farid Rachmansyah http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-15006 Farid Rachmansyah Mon, 31 Dec 2007 19:32:58 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-15006 i think you should open your mind about relationship. you just not yet found your soulmate, just search and search again. and you will find a good one, trust me :) i think you should open your mind about relationship. you just not yet found your soulmate, just search and search again. and you will find a good one, trust me :)

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-15130 DrowseyMonkey Wed, 02 Jan 2008 06:50:43 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-15130 Thanks Mrs - It sounds like your friend is enjoying her life, which is what's important. Farid - Well...I don't believe in soul mates, maybe when I was a kid, but not now. I like my life the way it is and it would be a lot of work and change if I had to rearrange my life now to include someone else. It's not out of the question...but it would be a huge life change and one I'm not sure I'm really interested in. Thanks Mrs - It sounds like your friend is enjoying her life, which is what’s important.

Farid - Well…I don’t believe in soul mates, maybe when I was a kid, but not now. I like my life the way it is and it would be a lot of work and change if I had to rearrange my life now to include someone else. It’s not out of the question…but it would be a huge life change and one I’m not sure I’m really interested in.

]]> By: wealthybabyboomer http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16066 wealthybabyboomer Tue, 15 Jan 2008 09:37:45 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16066 EXCELLENT! I love every word of this. I have to admit, I have been both happily and unhappily single in my life but have come to realize that the happy part and the single part have nothing to do with each other, as this wise woman has pointed out! This is must reading for singles so ya just know I am gonna link to it! EXCELLENT! I love every word of this. I have to admit, I have been both happily and unhappily single in my life but have come to realize that the happy part and the single part have nothing to do with each other, as this wise woman has pointed out! This is must reading for singles so ya just know I am gonna link to it!

]]> By: lvbag55 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16112 lvbag55 Wed, 16 Jan 2008 03:21:35 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16112 I like your words "Chances are if you’re not happy now as a single person, you won’t be happy in a relationship either". Anyhow, we should be happy! Life is short! I like your words “Chances are if you’re not happy now as a single person, you won’t be happy in a relationship either”. Anyhow, we should be happy! Life is short!

]]> By: Chicgirl http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16117 Chicgirl Wed, 16 Jan 2008 03:47:54 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16117 I believe you can be happy while single and lonely even in a relationship. Our emotions fluctuate; even if you don't feel you are entitled to them your human so you have them. I agree that people should not assume that someone is lying about being happily single. I have met many people who are miserable in relationships and sometimes abused. Do we say to these people "Hey it is better than being single" I think not. Thanks for an interesting post. Thanks to all who commented as well for sharing your thoughts. I believe you can be happy while single and lonely even in a relationship. Our emotions fluctuate; even if you don’t feel you are entitled to them your human so you have them. I agree that people should not assume that someone is lying about being happily single. I have met many people who are miserable in relationships and sometimes abused. Do we say to these people “Hey it is better than being single” I think not.

Thanks for an interesting post. Thanks to all who commented as well for sharing your thoughts.

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16308 DrowseyMonkey Sat, 19 Jan 2008 09:03:45 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16308 Thanks wealthy! What you said is so true...the happy and the single have nothing to do with each other. lvbag - thanks! And yes...you're so right! Thanks chic! Well said! Thanks wealthy! What you said is so true…the happy and the single have nothing to do with each other.

lvbag - thanks! And yes…you’re so right!

Thanks chic! Well said!

]]> By: happytoo http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16919 happytoo Tue, 29 Jan 2008 21:55:42 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-16919 It's interesting the comments that indicate an unwillingness to let people decide to be single. There is so much pressure to be part of a couple and to wonder what is wrong with someone who is single. It’s interesting the comments that indicate an unwillingness to let people decide to be single. There is so much pressure to be part of a couple and to wonder what is wrong with someone who is single.

]]> By: Carsten http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-17302 Carsten Mon, 04 Feb 2008 06:16:07 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-17302 Amen to that. I don't know if it ever happened to you that somebody who knows you (not as a friend, e.g. a co-worker etc.) asked you, if you are gay? Well, in your case if you are lesbian? I find it funny what kind of assumptions people make about the life of other people based on their own understanding of what is normal and things like that. I am busy and not looking for a partner, it is simply somewhere at the lower end of my "things in life to-do list". It's not the question if I want to, its just a matter of priority. Yeah, I want to, but not that badly that I sacrifice or not do other things I have on that same list, just a bit higher up. It is awfully hard to get in a relationship, if you are not actively pursuing it and simply don't spend any time on. I am not the guy who likes just messing around and do one-night stands. Did that, done that, makes me feel bad and thus defeats the purpose of the exercise. I don't say that I will never be in a relationship again or never get married ever(never was, thanks god). If it happens, because it is the right time, the right attitude, the right person and me actually not having something else with higher priority to take care of.. heck, why not. I am not afraid of it. p.s. no, that other person would have to be a female, because I happen to be hetero-sexual. Sorry guys, stop hoping hehe. Amen to that. I don’t know if it ever happened to you that somebody who knows you (not as a friend, e.g. a co-worker etc.) asked you, if you are gay? Well, in your case if you are lesbian?

I find it funny what kind of assumptions people make about the life of other people based on their own understanding of what is normal and things like that.

I am busy and not looking for a partner, it is simply somewhere at the lower end of my “things in life to-do list”. It’s not the question if I want to, its just a matter of priority. Yeah, I want to, but not that badly that I sacrifice or not do other things I have on that same list, just a bit higher up.

It is awfully hard to get in a relationship, if you are not actively pursuing it and simply don’t spend any time on. I am not the guy who likes just messing around and do one-night stands. Did that, done that, makes me feel bad and thus defeats the purpose of the exercise.

I don’t say that I will never be in a relationship again or never get married ever(never was, thanks god). If it happens, because it is the right time, the right attitude, the right person and me actually not having something else with higher priority to take care of.. heck, why not. I am not afraid of it.

p.s. no, that other person would have to be a female, because I happen to be hetero-sexual. Sorry guys, stop hoping hehe.

]]> By: quintal http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18079 quintal Wed, 13 Feb 2008 08:03:35 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18079 why is she hiding behind that doll toy? why is she hiding behind that doll toy?

]]> By: Ear Plugs http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18242 Ear Plugs Fri, 15 Feb 2008 10:40:41 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18242 nice blog, i used to read your unique post and articles here. nice blog, i used to read your unique post and articles here.

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18254 DrowseyMonkey Fri, 15 Feb 2008 16:46:30 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18254 happytoo - I've never felt pressure to be in a couple...no one I know has ever made me feel that way, but I know it can happen. carsten - exactly! well said. quintal - lol, not hiding...it's just my avitar. Like many people who have blogs I keep any identifiable information about myself private. The doll has to do with my blog...if you dropped by you'd get it. ear plugs - ummm...this is my one & only post here...but thanks! happytoo - I’ve never felt pressure to be in a couple…no one I know has ever made me feel that way, but I know it can happen.

carsten - exactly! well said.

quintal - lol, not hiding…it’s just my avitar. Like many people who have blogs I keep any identifiable information about myself private. The doll has to do with my blog…if you dropped by you’d get it.

ear plugs - ummm…this is my one & only post here…but thanks!

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18256 Arvind Devalia Fri, 15 Feb 2008 17:19:11 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18256 Excellent article DrowseyMonkey. As you say similar ideas to what I wrote aboutin my Valentine's Day article - http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2008/02/14/valentines-day-4-%e2%80%93-how-to-be-single-and-happy/ As you say, happiness has to come from within and one must rely on the other person in a relationship for your happiness. Excellent article DrowseyMonkey.

As you say similar ideas to what I wrote aboutin my Valentine’s Day article -

http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2008/02/14/valentines-day-4-%e2%80%93-how-to-be-single-and-happy/

As you say, happiness has to come from within and one must rely on the other person in a relationship for your happiness.

]]> By: DrowseyMonkey http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18291 DrowseyMonkey Sat, 16 Feb 2008 02:12:11 +0000 http://www.15minutedate.com/blog/2007/12/06/happily-single-%e2%80%93-it%e2%80%99s-not-a-myth/#comment-18291 So true Arvind! :) And thanks for the link to your post...great stuff! So true Arvind! :) And thanks for the link to your post…great stuff!

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