The 15 Minute Dating Blog

by Jayne Dressor.

I have always been the type to do research, but, I never thought internet dating would become one of my projects. It started very innocently; I was bored and lonely. Internet dating has become quite an “interesting” journey. to say the least. The word “interesting” is not really the word I would use to describe my experiences over the past 2 years.

I was a very naive individual; somewhat sheltered, in a worldly sort of way. If I had a mean bone in my body, it was never intentional. I took anyone and everyone, at their word. The reality wouldn’t kick in for quite a while.

I believe I will never fully understand some of the thinking or behavior with which I have encountered, by the male species. Even my male friends couldn’t explain to me why other men would act the way they did. I thought by going straight to the source, I would find some answers. Go figure, even the men couldn’t answer a simple question about why other men (99%) acted like a horse’s ass. It has become painfully apparent, no one, can really explain or understand why men act the way they do.

I have always considered myself an intelligent woman, until a few years of “internet dating”. Somewhere, somehow I just wasn’t very smart anymore. I have heard just about every story imaginable. As embarrassing as this is to admit; I believed almost everything I was told. Had I been an outsider looking in, I would have fallen over and died from laughter.

I got started on this “journey” as a result of being bored & lonely. Surfing the internet & checking out everything the internet had to offer, helped occupy my time. After a while, I just got sucked in. I had become obsessed with dating sites, chat rooms and chat lines.

Here are some of my “dating” experiences, if, that’s what one can call it. I call it, “My first 100, first dates & how you can speed up the speed dating process by eliminating them all”.

Here are some of the red flags, as you will, or just a heads up for the “newcomer”, or not so new, to the internet dating scene. Beware of anything or anyone that appears too good to be true.

Maybe I was just completely unaware, in denial, too long out of the loop or just plain stupid about men. I don’t lie, cheat, say I am someone, I am not, make up stories about my life or myself, so…………………, what was a girl like me, doing in a place like that?

I will go back as far as I can remember. There have been so many; my brain can’t decipher one from the next. I had to start writing down their names, ages & locations.

I have been told they were sent from God, why can’t you believe me. A wasted four months; he was married. I have been told they were the best thing that ever happened to me & how good looking they were, & a man in uniform to boot. I think he neglected to tell me the uniform he had on prior to that one, had stripes. The way he looked at me, made me feel like I was a fine piece of sirloin that was being sauteed, marinated & was ready for the grill. I had my babysitter call with a phony drunk story.

Since my daughter is mature for her age, she went with me on a few dates. I do not recommend this. She would say quiet, or she would get whinny. It was my call. When I didn’t take her with me, I made sure she called, or I would text her, to make her call.

I forgot to mention the guy who ditched me while I was following him to the mall. The one who told me he was driving from San Diego and would be here around 3AM. He never showed. The body builder from N. Carolina;, my exact words were;”Oh God, please don’t let that be him”. An obvious misrepresentation of his looks. He neglected to mention he hadn’t been body building for quite some time.

The up close picture hides a lot. As a result of that picture, he showed up 100 pounds more than I expected. Silly I made an assumption. When they are so adamant about whom they are; run. If they say they are handsome and don’t look their age, run faster.

The one and only time I ran before the meeting was when, I saw him coming, couldn’t believe my eyes, the pimp hat was a plus, however, I turned the other way, got back in my car to pray that he didn’t see me and never answered my phone again. I felt guilty for days, but, eventually I got over it. After giving up on the internet dating sites & chat lines. I decided to give Craigs List a shot. After all I got my job off of CL. I got furniture & free stuff. I have gotten great side jobs. Why not, find a boyfriend off CL, so I posted. The response was overwhelming.

After picking myself up off the floor, from the responses I received, I narrowed it down from 150. 60 years olds to a few, ranging from 38-44. But then again, when they are so anxious to meet, you know something isn’t right. When that fell thru, answered some posts, only to get really nice responses telling me about themselves & sharing their penis pictures.

Needless to say, I have given up my search for a boyfriend. I just got a new car. It lets me know when I need it serviced & I have a navigation system. What more do I need?

I hope I have given you some wonderful insight. If not, I hope you enjoyed my dating experiences as much as I have.

About the author: Jayne was born in Hartford Connecticut, but her family moved to the West Coast when she was in her teens & have lived in California most of that time.

Almost 5 years ago, she went thru a nasty divorce & worked very hard to get thru the pain. As a result, she wrote a short story about gratitude and faith. She is hoping to get her story published in the near future.

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