50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men
by Ed Attanasio.
Some call it the “Sugar Daddy Syndrome.” Others call it the “Father was never around” complex. A lot of people have no problem with it, while many find it sick and perverted. Regardless of your own personal views, young women dating older men is a worldwide phenomenon that is gaining popularity and acceptance at an alarming rate.
Why do young women like older men? What attracts 20-something females to 40, 50, even 60-something males? You could spend several hundred hours with a series of shrinks in an attempt to sort through the plethora of possible answers. The only problem with that is that most psychiatrists are expensive and love the term “billable hours.” It would cost thousands of dollars to find out the truth.
After talking with both sexes at great length, I have come to the conclusion that young women like older men because the relationship comes with benefits - lots of them. Face it — we are a very simple race. We look at dating the same way we look at a financial balance sheet.
What will I get out of it? Is it a good deal for me? How can I leverage this? These are just some of the questions we constantly ask ourselves when we’re in any relationship, whether we’re aware of it or not.
Here is a list that we’re calling the Top 50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men. If you’re a young attractive lady considering a guy twice your age, this list might give you the 50 reasons you need to persuade yourself into making a move to the geriatric side. Here it goes:
1. He knows a lot of useless stuff and makes a great partner in games like Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit and Balderdash.
2. He’s well-read. He can explain a book’s plot and storyline to you quickly and succinctly, thereby saving you the time it would take to actually read the book. It’s like having your own personal set of Cliff Notes.
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3. This gives you more free time to spend his money at malls, outlet stores, and online. |
4. He knows a lot about music. He can name the band that Paul McCartney played with prior to Wings.
| 5. You can borrow his Grecian Formula to patch any bleached sun spots in your hair. |  |
6. The big bedroom and/or guest rooms in his house means no rent for you and eventually your friends/relatives can move in too.
7. He’ll provide better, more intelligent and engrossing conversations. (How long can you talk about trucks, extreme sports and partying anyway?)
8. If you sprain your ankle, you can use his cane.
| 9. He qualifies for early bird senior discounts at restaurants. |  |
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10. He’ll actually dance with you at night clubs. He’ll be the hit of the party when he pulls out his “Funky Chicken.” |
11. He’ll open doors and pull out chairs for you.
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12. If he gets too chatty, you can hide his teeth. |
| 13. Qualifies for AARP membership privileges. |  |
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14. You can throw away all of your coupons for McDonalds, Der Wienerschnitzel and Panda Express since you have no use for them. Start to brush up on your dining etiquettes and prepare yourself for eating at restaurants such as Houston’s, P.F. Chang, and Morton’s. |
| 15. He’ll give you flowers, candy and best of all - cold, hard cash! |  |
16. He’s into holding hands and other Public Displays of Affection (PDA’s) as opposed to today’s “no contact” rules associated with dating in 2007.
17. You won’t need to pay for AAA roadside service because he’ll pick you up whenever your car breaks down.
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18. He’ll effectively replace your dad for when pops isn’t around. (Celebrate Father’s Day twice!) |
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19. Will treat 100% of the time. (Young guys don’t have cash, credit cards, or in many cases, wallets.) |
| 20. No random late-night booty calls, because he goes to bed at 9 pm every night. |  |
21. He won’t try to change you.
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22. He can help you with your homework. |
| 23. He’s very experienced in bed. If you like it or want to try it, he’s been there, done that! (And more than once.) |  |
24. He won’t pretend to listen to you just so he can get in your pants.
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25. Kiss goodbyes to Motel 6, Budget Inn, and Super 8 when you travel. Say hello to the Hyatt, the Hilton, and the Westin. |
26. He has a future, even though it might be a limited one.
27. You’ll never have to pay for car maintenance. A lifetime of free tune-ups, oil changes, tire rotations and windshield wiper replacements awaits you.
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28. Dating him will shock your folks. They may even throw lots of money at you to stop dating him. |
| 29. He has some serious pension/social security money coming to him down the line. |  |
30. He’s not sleeping on mommy’s couch or living with his parents.
| 31. You don’t have to worry about him looking at other women. (His vision is probably so shot he can’t see them). |  |
32. He’s articulate and knows multi-syllabic words. (Improve your vocabulary).
33. Sex with caring.
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34. He dresses better. Won’t show up in his one pair of ratty jeans all the time. Means you can get into nice restaurants/clubs. |
35. He doesn’t have any drug baggage. He may have smoked pot in the ’60’s and ’70’s; or did coke in the ’80’s and ’90’s, but chances are he’s clean now. (Otherwise he’d probably be dead.)
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36. He’s entitled to all kind of discounts including senior bus fares and matinee discounts. This means more cash left over for you. |
37. He’ll wait at least one month before he expects it.
38. You won’t have to worry about getting pregnant. His sperm cells are so old, they’re swimming backstroke (Warning: Always wear protection.)
| 39. He’s an attentive lover and won’t forget your name or order pizza immediately after he has an orgasm. |  |
40. He won’t argue with you over little, meaningless things. (He’s basically numb.)
41. He won’t ask you a bunch of personal, prying questions, like “What’s your name?”
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42. He won’t run away. At least not very far. Or very fast. |
43. You can talk politics with him, something you can’t do with younger men. (He knows that Colin Powell isn’t a medical condition.)
44. He’ll memorize your phone number, which comes in handy if you get too drunk and forget it.
45. He’ll turn you on to old-school chick flicks like The Graduate, Love Story and Breakfast at Tiffany’s.
| 46. He has a nice car. Park your Hyundai and start driving his Infiniti, Porsche, Lexus, Mercedes or BMW. |  |
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47. He’ll take you on incredible vacations, unlike young guys. No more Vegas, Palm Springs and Tijuana during Spring Break. Say hello to cruises to Europe and Australia, ski trips to Aspen and Telluride and African safaris. |
48. He won’t be jealous of your vibrator. He’s realistic!
| 49. He won’t be text messaging you all the time. He doesn’t know how! |  |
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50. When he dies, you can date his cute son(s)! |
About the author: Ed is a 48-year old former standup comic, freelance writer/journalist who likes to blow bubbles and kiss his dogs. Some people have serious problems with that, but does he care? He enjoys his life living in San Francisco and appreciates what he has — a fabulous fiancée, two great mutts, a dedicated shrink and really good prescription medication.
For more of his insane rantings, visit his blog, “Life on the Edge” at: www.edattanasio.blogspot.com
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June 23rd, 2007 at 10:36 pm
Funny stuff, although I gotta admit that I’m one of those girls who thinks if he grew up on disco he’s too old for my 20-something sister. I draw the line at he must at least have rocked on to my own 80’s hair bands. And I’m glad my parents are still together, because if Dad ever showed up for dinner with a girl younger than me I’d be the one in therapy : ).
June 24th, 2007 at 12:38 am
Nice. I am 50 and I’m hoping some of these young fillies start coming my way.
June 24th, 2007 at 7:14 am
Whoaaa this is interesting and it is quite often these days heheh
June 24th, 2007 at 1:59 pm
Hilarious! Younger women are flocking to us older guys and it’s a blast! I love them, because they’re bright, vivacious and eager to learn about the world around them. I find older single women in this country to be bitter, over-opinionated, pushy and selfish! They’re know-it-all’s with bad attitudes and lousy plastic surgery. When I date these young gals, I feel like a teacher, a lover and a father figure all in one and it’s both a physical and emotional turn-on. I’m 50, and I have more hot young 30-somethings vying for my attention than I can handle. I divorced a shriveled old bag who was 50 and fading fast, and now I have several young babes in dating rotation. It makes me feel younger too. All I can say is life is good! Great posting. I can’t wait to read your blog because you’re funny as hell!
June 24th, 2007 at 8:15 pm
I am one of those older ladies you’re dissing, Aaron, and I sure don’t appreciate what you’re saying. If we’re bitter, it’s because guys like you have been treating us like doo doo all these years. I’m a three-timer divorcee and all of my husbands had one thing in common — they were jerks! You just can’t handle older babes, Aaron, that’s probably your situation. We’re smarter, wiser and packed with personality. Young women can’t stand up to the real thing, baby!
June 24th, 2007 at 9:20 pm
I agree with number 30 and number 42 the most. No doubt about it.
June 24th, 2007 at 11:42 pm
You made our point for us, Ms. Korenko. You sound angry and burnt out. I wouldn’t date you for all the cash in the world. Younger women are a great alternative for guys like me (60-plus and wealthy), because they APPRECIATE us. I pity your three ex-husbands. Well, hopefully they’re happy now.
June 25th, 2007 at 1:18 am
All of you are sinners. Pre-marital sex is a serious offense toward God. Hooking up with women half your age isn’t normal, guys. Can’t you see it? Stop being pawns for Satan and wise up! Marraige is a lifelong thing, kitty. The fact you have been maried three times should tell you that you aree the problem, not your ex-husbands. You’re no better than the men. You all need to repent today.
June 25th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
I too enjoy a little of the young stuff from time to time. Some of them can be a little obnoxious, always wanting to borrow the credit card, but as long as I don’t mind playing Sugar Daddy, it all works out. You are right about the older ones, Aaron. They are a real handful and not worth the hassle, in most instances.
June 26th, 2007 at 2:15 am
I never heard about this until now. Where are all these hot young babes? I know there not where I live (Boise, Idaho).
June 26th, 2007 at 8:31 pm
I like younger women too. They are more fun to be around. They don’t complain all the time and they just like to hang out.
June 26th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
You guys are all losers. I cannot believe some of these comments. Older women have so much to offer and if you can’t see that then you are hopeless. There are a lot more important things in this world than how someone looks.
June 27th, 2007 at 11:11 am
I like old women, they are fun to be with. any one need love, please contact me. michealwiz@yahoo.com
June 27th, 2007 at 4:52 pm
I like young guys. There is also a big movement out there of young men going out with older, more mature women. It’s not like you older fellas have cornered the market on going out with people younger than you. Women are enjoying the young stuff too!
June 27th, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Funny stuff. I laughed my ass off!
June 27th, 2007 at 11:27 pm
I like the younger babes too! They love me because I’m still a big kid, even though I am almost 60. They don’t have bratty kids and they don’t bitch at me if I am late or want to hang out with my buddies.
June 28th, 2007 at 10:13 pm
Hilarious, with the exception of the comments. Wow, people, lighten up!
#32 always makes me hot…
June 29th, 2007 at 2:03 pm
Hey everybody! Thanks for reading my article and making the piece the second most popular one on this site. I had no idea that I would be stirring up so much controversy with this topic. I myself dated a younger woman for a while a few years back, but it didn’t work out because she was insane. She actually tried to slit her wrists one night after we had a fight. But, when the relationship was good, it was great. Something about dating someone younger than yourself just seems to energize you. She had a fascination about life that made her fun to be around. Now I’m engaged to a woman four years younger than me and we’re just happy being in our 40’s and in love. My dating days are over, but I can live vicariously through my readers who are still out there on the front lines. Thanks for all the feedback and keep an eye out for my next article on www.15minutedate.com. I hope you enjoy reading all of the content on this site as much as I do!
June 29th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
Sounds like Aaron and Phil just proved Ms. Korenko’s point: why would older women be attracted to insecure men who are afraid to date an equal partner with their own set of opinions, thoughts, and experiences? Personally, I’d rather stay out of the shallow end of the dating pool. Women of ALL ages are sexy.
June 29th, 2007 at 11:06 pm
Right on, Jay. My feelings exactly. Old, young, fat, skinny, smart. witty, black, white, etc. — I love them all. (From afar since I’m attached, however. Who knows when my fiancee might be reading this!)
June 30th, 2007 at 2:44 am
I’m a 52-year-old woman who looks like a 30-year-old. With me you get the best of ALL worlds!
June 30th, 2007 at 11:45 pm
Wow. I was just curious what other people thought about this subject. Toni - you are so right! An older woman with confidence, intelligence, and enough self respect to keep themselves in good shape is the best of ALL worlds. And it is a 2-way street.
PS - It must suck to be Kitty, Kyle, or Susan
July 1st, 2007 at 1:24 pm
ok i think this is the bottom line in this young vs.old female.
I’m 68 ,just look around any of you,anywhere,at the majority of woman
say 45 to 70,nothing but overweight,almost obese,uncaring witches.
Just try any dating service in that age range maybe 1 in 500 will be slim
lets face it men are animals/hunters we like eye candy.
on the other hand a woman searches for whats inside a man.
its all b.s anyhow
July 1st, 2007 at 9:23 pm
Hey Kitty, your offended about the comment that the person above you made, and then you end your post by practically degrading younger women…. so its not ok to insult an “older” women (cause you fall in that category) buts its ok for you to insult “younger” women (since it doesnt directly affect you, right?) sheesh, double standards at its best (my point was you should have promoted what older women have to offer, which is alot, and not downplay the qualities or intelligence of younger ones)
My partner and i are 32 years apart and we got quite a laugh from the article, its so narrowminded that i doubt anyone could take this seriously. Its not about age its about what people have in common and despite the skeptics out there may-december romances can work no problem, and some of these couples have alot more in common then people would believe.
Great article, made me smile
Thanks
Anna
July 3rd, 2007 at 3:26 am
Anna, it’s interesting that you should mention what people have in common. This is the argument that most people who are opposed to May/December romances give against it. After all, what could people from different generations have in common? They don’t like the same bands. They don’t like the same movies. Like that is what makes a relationship work. When talking about having something in common I like to think it is something deeper and more profound than having the same interests, like their basic philosophy. I believe that age should not be a factor in a relationship any more than race, religion or culture should be.
Kity, you just proved Aaron’s point (not that all older women are like you). You clearly are bitter. 3 divorces and none of them are your fault? Maybe the guys did treat you like doo doo, but you picked them. There are decent guys out there.
July 3rd, 2007 at 6:26 pm
Enjoyed the funny stuff but I was also saddened by the comments. I would love to date older women but bitter doesn’t really cover them. Desperately evil might be better. They seem to try and entrap men as fast as they can and then quickly go for the gold. I have been hit by this with many of the older women I have dated.
The younger women seem to be more relaxed and fun to be with. I feel like I am being weighed in a set of commercial scales whenever I date older women. They are giving me twenty questions all leading to how much money do I have. Young women many times just want to have spontaneous fun. If it requires money I don’t feel pressured to pay for everything with younger women. Older women try to force me in the place vacated by their long gone husband or husbands. I think I will stay with the young ones. These older witches can soon turn you into a broke frog wondering how you could have been so stupid.
July 3rd, 2007 at 8:34 pm
Wow, what a funny article, Ed. Looks like you’ve got a lot of people going in different directions here. I am a youngish gal (26) married to a wonderful husband who is quite a lot older than me (59). We love each other so much and just want to be around each other 24/7. He was married twice before, and both his ex-wives are dried up, spent prunes who are so bitter and unhappy that frowns and grimaces are their normal facial expressions. My husband has to deal with them, because he had kids with both of these shrews, but that’s the price he’s paying for being stupid. His one ex (I call her the Joker because she’s had so much plastic surgery she looks like she’s wearing a clown’s mask) reminds me so much of this Kitty Korenko. What a totally unhappy woman. My advice to older men is this — stick to the younger ladies — they’re not damaged yet!
July 4th, 2007 at 2:53 am
Man, this subject really brings out the fire in folks. Me, I like older guys. I always have. They are smarter, wiser and have $$.
July 4th, 2007 at 4:29 am
I do believe that there’s a strong primal component to a man’s attraction to younger women and a woman’s attraction to wealthy men. It’s the whole “he’s seeking fertility and she’s seeking a nest builder/protecter” thing. It’s hard wired into us to perpetuate the species.
July 4th, 2007 at 3:31 pm
Ladies love me because I’m sexy. It does not matter that I am old.
July 4th, 2007 at 6:18 pm
In Japan, we like older men because they are more virile and can support our expenisive life styles better. Young mans are to laught at. Matur men are to sleep with. This is thw way of my peeople/
July 5th, 2007 at 6:04 pm
lol… hilarious…
well dating older guy is kind of having the sense of security, maturity…
July 5th, 2007 at 7:39 pm
I like the older babes myself. And I’m 20 years old. They are smarter, more vibrant and know a lot more about life. Sure, gravity has caught up with most of them, but if you can look past the sagging flesh and wrinkles, there’s an incredible antique diamond in the rough there. Young women are mostly hoochies. At least where I live they are. I’m not into one-nighters anymore. You have to talk once in a while, know what I’m saying?
July 6th, 2007 at 1:45 am
50 reasons is too much. Some women like older men but I think the majority wants a confident man who treats them with respect and is kind and friendly.
July 6th, 2007 at 2:36 am
In my 20’s I only dated older women in their 40’s. It is fun both ways.
July 6th, 2007 at 6:51 pm
My girlfriend right now is 32 years older than me. It works, because she takes care of me and respects me. I’m not looking for a mother figure. We just met one day and fell in love. Plus, her daughter’s hot (just kidding!)
July 6th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
When i’m in my 80’s I want SEVEN BLONDE GIRLFRIENDS who are in their 20’s. Just like HEF!!
July 8th, 2007 at 3:33 am
I likes all the ladies, regardless of age, color, size or shape. They all look good to me. I do like them quiet, though. A yacky gal is a major turnoff. Silent but deadly is more my stlye. I see myself with an Angelina Joley type of woamn. But, she is already with Brad, so I guess I need tio look elsewhere. If any of youse beauties are looking for a 65-year-old mensa black man who knows hows to treat yo rite, e-mail me at funnyasIam@metroed.net
July 9th, 2007 at 1:10 am
I have always had a very special way with all the ladies, but the older ones just seem to gravitate toward me. It might be because I drive a Benz and look much younger than I am (36). I love the older set because they’re so much more willing to give. Younger babes are selfish and much more self-absorbed.
July 9th, 2007 at 2:45 pm
I’m in my 20’s and I find myself having more in common with older men. For example, I love classical music and going to symphonies and operas. I love visiting museums and art galleries. And I also enjoy reading books on business and investment.
I find that most guys my age don’t care about the same things that I love to do. They’d rather listen to those bands, play video games, and they rarely read anything (ok, maybe the textbook haha). But when I go out with older men I have so much more to talk about. Maybe I’m just different from other girls, but I’m just saying this May-December thing might suit some people better.
July 9th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
Double wow. I never anticpated this kind of feedback on my article, but I’m really enjoying it. The comments just keep coming on this topic and I love it. We’ve really gotten a wide range of feedback from a bunch of folks here and it’s great. Good for you, Ava. You’re a sophisticated woman and you require a sophisticated man. You go girl!
July 9th, 2007 at 8:42 pm
I’m a 34 yo man, and I find mature (older) ladies much more attractive. Many are quite beautiful still, elegant and young at heart. It’s easy to have an interesting conversation and to find common ground. I also find that a older woman is more comfortable with herself and with her view of life. There is less chance they will change a lot over time. Mature women know how to conduct themselves, know how to carry on a conversation, and know how to give respect.
The younger women I dated (say 24-26 yo) just didn’t have the right view of life. I try to be nice so I don’t point out things I don’t like, but I could see it was hopeless to have a relationship, even if the younger woman seems to be rather interested. Younger woman I found seem to play some sort of game, seem to be afraid to reveal their feelings. It’s difficult to become true friends, and they sometimes act like the older man is with them because of a sexual desire. If we must talk sex, let me say that I’m not too impressed with what younger women have to offer. Younger women seem not to understand the meaning of friendship, intimacy, sex and love.
Let me end with a quote from a former date with a younger lady. When tried to steer the conversation toward current events, I asked about her thoughts on the situation in Asia. Her answer “I think can’t we all just get along?” Hmmm I thought…..smiling gently, not knowing what else to say.
July 9th, 2007 at 10:36 pm
Aaron Goldberry, you hit it on the head with your statement, yes, young women like to play head games, but when you treat them right, the possibilities are endless, unless of course they’ve been hurt and it is fresh, then it is best to treat them with kid gloves and get that fresh, hot body while it’s still hot! However, if she can love you, then why not love her back. Im 35 and you best believe I will bed down an 18 year old in a minute, no questions asked and she will still get dinner, a movie and maybe a concert, happy hunting and young ladies, there are nice guys no matter what the age, who will treat you right….
July 10th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
What situation in Asia Mark, does’t have to do with age sweety.
July 10th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
What Mark was saying is that the woman was uninformed and not up on her current affairs. A good reason to get another current affair.
July 11th, 2007 at 2:14 am
I am 28 and currently in a “relationship” with a 52 y/o man. He’s intelligent, witty and spontaneous. We discuss politics, movies, sports, life in general. We have fun together. Younger men want to talk about beer and cars and women. That is boring. Even though I enjoy all of those things, my brain turns to mush if that’s the amount of stimulation that I get. I have much more to offer than what I could possibly get back from a boy that hasn’t experienced life. I get butterflies when I am around him. He’s sexy and makes me feel sexy. We have amazing sex. Women, these men know what they are doing, they know how to please a woman both in and out of bed. They aren’t selfish and they definitely ARE attentive to your needs and desires. I’ve primarily dated younger men (a year or 2) but NO MORE!
July 11th, 2007 at 7:54 am
Wow!!!!! Good comments, bad ones and lots of angry comments. I am 66 and madly in love with a lady that is fifty. What I am in love with is her! not her age or looks. known her for ten years as a friend with no contact and none attempted. Both single now and she is wonderful. She laughs and talks for hours with me. Her kids are well behaved and easy to love. She takes care of herself and so do I. Sometimes we both act like 18 year olds and at other times you might find us dicussing E=MC sq. Yes she is smart and yet she plays like a 16 year old sometimes. I believe a woman can be anything she wants given the right man and chances. Saddled with the wrong man or father or mother she can get fat or stay uneducated just as easily as a man. Older or younger we all are what we have made ourselves or allowed ourselves to become. Right now there isn’t another woman in the world that could drag me away from my beloved Kathy.
July 12th, 2007 at 12:35 am
I am always amused by you Americans. You put so much weight on how someone looks. No wonder your divorce rate is so high. In France. men and women are able to look beyond the physical to the mental and spiritual things about people that really matter. Until you get a clue about relationships in your country, you will always be playing second fiddle to the superior race known as Francais! You like to say we are rude, but the fact is we are just smarter and we find you boring and tiresome. That’s why we come off as rude. My wife is 48 and I am 29, and we get along famously. It’s because we care about each other and respect what’s inside, as opposed the size of her breasts or the size of my nose.
July 12th, 2007 at 7:13 pm
i want any older woman who would love to date me and have a relationship with me forever
July 12th, 2007 at 7:46 pm
Cote, you are so young and forgetful. Ask your 48 year old wife who saved your asses in WW 2. If it wasn’t for us you Francais would be speaking German today.
July 12th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
I do 2 no how to txt
July 13th, 2007 at 7:36 pm
my sister married a guy in his 50’s when she was early 30’s-
now he is in his 80’s and she has a lover, and basically
abuses the old husband–
it might be ok for the guy for a while but chances of a much
younger woman really hanging around ’till death do us part’
not that good…
also for younger women–they need to think of health
consequences of involvement with promiscuous older
men…
July 13th, 2007 at 10:53 pm
CG approximately 25-30 years seems pretty successful. I would be happy with those results. In that case when I turned 80 boot her cheatin butt out and find me a sexy 50 year old. Also my son runs a blood center…College kids are a ragin epidemic disease wise. They run the course from AIDS to hepatitis. He was saying 3 out of 10 had some disqualifying infection. So watch out for young and old when it comes to exchanging fluids.
July 14th, 2007 at 7:21 pm
You are an arrogant American, Money. How dare you insult the French. Take it back or face the guillotine, you Yankee scumbag!
July 15th, 2007 at 11:57 pm
I have owned a lot of bars and I’ve found that the young women just drink way too much. It’s no fun to go out with a young babe and then have her get really smashed. I’ve dated a ton of young women (I was married to one for close to 10 years) and sometimes I feel more like a designated driver than a significant other.
July 16th, 2007 at 5:11 am
Wow,Kitty you really do know how to pick them? You can’t blame all three men for possibly ending these relationships can you? I mean im sure you did certain things for the marriages to end. If you really think men are jerks you can end up bitter and alone or go date a female=]
Cote , you dislike americans and we are arrogant? Yes I am arrogant and I don’t mind admitting to that. Glad you can admit you have a big nose and so on as well if we are so annoying and arrogant than why bother reading what we have to say and keep replying to everyones comments? Childish and Highly interested in us Lovely Americans I see… We are very appealing I know it and so do you!
So I myself am and 18 yr old lady and the most common phrase I hear is “Age is nothing but a number” typically from older men. I myself just met an older man and he is quite the ladies man he is 36 and I have know him since i was 18 he is my dad’s friend.(I know right) He recently told me he has had thoughts about me since I turned 18 and he think’s im quite attractive and so on..Likewise he is hard worker and handsome. I can’t see myself seeing him with my dad and then on the side with me I think it’s wrong.Perhaps if he was not a friend.
Oh and young ladies were all going to be old so don’t think all these men trash talking older women..they basically are talking smack to us…We will be at that age so they need to shush. Appreciate youth as well as matureness.
-Cat
July 16th, 2007 at 11:58 am
For Brie … who married her old fart.. Yes his shriveled up dried prune ex -wives are who they are today becaues he has been through them. Your turn will also come. They also started out young and fresh. Makes you think. As for a bitter and twisted older women - I also prefer the younger fresh men for the same reasons the old farts like younger women - to use their bodies - definelty not for the stimulating conversation. The difference is - older women don’t have to PAY for the privilage of younger flesh, the willing to do it for free… no strings attached and we dont want to be looked after. We also older an experienced enough to know the difference. So let grandpa PAY and continue to babysit you
July 16th, 2007 at 3:08 pm
I like your attitude Cat. You seem very mature for your young age. It’s refreshing. Would you consider dating a 48-year-old?
July 16th, 2007 at 5:43 pm
Welll, unfortunately the political hatred of men dating younger women in the USA has turned into an actual law.
The International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA) forces websites that introduce Americans to foreigners (all dating websites do that) to background check the Americans before contact is allowed. You can read up on that at www.onlinedatingrights.com.
The logistics of the background check are such that contact never happens or is greatly delayed in most cases.
Both Democrat and Republican politicians voted for this (except Ron Paul and Tom Tancredo) and the media is mostly silent about it: the media is run by corporations that want the Internet to be regulated so people are not anonymous anymore.
The Supreme Court will quietly uphold the law in a year or two, permanently ending the 1st Amendment Right to Assembly.
Regarding the above subject, it may seem that the bitter older women are in the minority online, but they control the Bipartisan Women’s Caucus in Congress.
It stands to reason: the younger women who want to bed down the male senators have less power than the female senators. The female senators get revenge with laws like IMBRA. The male senators allow themselves to be castrated.
It used to be that the Democrats protected “the patriarchy” before 1968 when the Republican Party was mostly women. Then there was a period when men really had their fun until 1986 when the Christian Right took control of the Republican Party and joined the anti-male feminists in pretending that there was a heterosexual Aids crisis…thus ending the Sexual Revolution they hated so much (because they did not want to see men having fun).
Since 1986, the Republican Party and the Democratic Party have been more anti-male than political parties in any democracy in history (even Sweden). Top level female senators in both parties are like the woman above with three ex-husbands and a chip on her shoulder about men dating younger women. Look especially at Maria Cantwell and Hillary Clinton. They are not going to be happy until all heterosexual men over 40 are unhappy. Meanwhile, there are man-hating males like Sam Brownback in the Republican Party.
July 16th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
Jack: Hillary has a lot of reasons to hate 40-something men. This law sounds like pay back for Monica, Gennifer and all of the other hoochies Bill bedded down over the years.
July 17th, 2007 at 12:08 am
Haha.. this was hilarious! Here’s an interesting article on the same subject of dating men that are significantly older (or younger) than you:
http://www.savvymiss.com/love-advice/love-relationship-advice/love-and-relationships-archive/article/what-his-age-means-for-your-relationship-2870.html
It’s also a list, but also included the pros/cons of dating younger men, which I prefer. I don’t think I could get used to eating dinner at 4pm.
July 17th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
wow, this topic is so cool. im 22 the nxt person il want to date has to be from 45 onwards, im tired of small frustrating boys,
anyone there?
holla: mourinew@gmail.com
July 18th, 2007 at 1:29 am
I love the younger gals myself, because they are just fun to hang out with. In Tahiti, it’s fully acceptable for a man to go out with a woman who is much younger than he is. We’re just too hung up on age in this country.
July 19th, 2007 at 7:11 pm
It’s always been older guys for me. When I was 18 I went out with a 32-year-old. When I was 24 I went out with a 40-year-old. And now that I’m 35, my man is 60.
I know what I like and I like older doods!
July 21st, 2007 at 6:09 am
I’m 24 and with a 45 year old and I’m SICK of everyone making such a big deal out of it and reducing our relationship into its age component. When I fell for him I didn’t realize he was 45, I just really really really really really really really liked him A LOT.
July 23rd, 2007 at 3:38 am
I should have hooked up with you in college when I had a chance, Ed. Instead I married some doctor and got divorced. Great article. I always knew you’d be a great writer.
July 26th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Younger women don’t stimulate me mentally or socially. Sure, they have nice bodies, but I’m the kind of person who loves a good brain and a great conversation more than I do a hot little bod.
July 27th, 2007 at 2:28 pm
TO KYLE RAPTON:
First of all, I am tired of christians judging others. You of all people should know that the only one allowed to judge is God. 2nd. Maybe you should be using forums like this to witness, not turn people off to God and christianity. 3rd My boyfriend is 14 years older than me, we attend church every sunday, pray together and have not had premarital sex. I am happy and things are perfectly normal.
July 27th, 2007 at 5:59 pm
Psst, money2145: France’s entry into the revolutionary war saved our butts. If it wasn’t for the French, we’d all be speaking with British accents.
This May-December thing smacks of a double standard. To judge from some of the comments, wealth and sophistication automatically entitle a man to serially date nubile twentysomethings for the rest of his life. Meanwhile women get thrown on the ash heap the moment they turn 35 and derided as pruny, wrinkly, bitter old hags.
And this arrangement benefits women how?
Reducing romantic relationships to the level of economic transactions (woman’s hot body in exchange for man’s experience and $$$) isn’t really the best foundation for a healthy, long-lasting partnership. Fall in love with a person, not a set of attributes.
July 28th, 2007 at 11:27 pm
I cannot believe the dialog that this article has created. 70 comments? Unbelievable. I especially like the latest comment, submitted by Jessica Myers. I think you stated it perfectly, Jessica.
July 29th, 2007 at 5:47 pm
I like older fellas. I’m 22 and I’m dating a 23 year old.
July 29th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
One of the comments here talks about all of the STD’s that young people carry. I am a victim of it, so I know. I’m 44, and I went out with a 20-something gal for about a year. She was tramping around, and within six months gave me body mites, the herps and something else the doctors haven’t been able to ID yet. If you are going to sleep with younger ladies, BEWARE men. These babes are out there having one nighters and picking up diseases!
August 1st, 2007 at 7:12 pm
Man, I love these kind of diatribes and they resonate with me on so many different levels. Young b’s do it for me and always will, because they are vivacious, loquaicoius and when they do me right — they so, so very d-licious! It’s a quandry that I’ve injected myself into and I love every single minute of it. If there are any younsters out there (you must be at least 22) I’d love to hear from you. I am 51, but I possess the energy of a 25-year-old!
August 2nd, 2007 at 1:35 pm
i would love to date An older woman,because they are more matured and caring than the younger one and Good in Bed aswell.while as a young Guy i make them happen in terms of love making and other things they want from me.
Murphy
Positive_black@yahoo.co.uk
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:33 pm
I have known my friend, an older man for now 18 years, and we have always had a spouse. Well, one day we were finding ourselves single, and he called me up. Mind you, we have been teasing each other for all those years.. and well when we got together.. hence his call, WOW, better than I expected. we love to do all sorts of things we used to like to do.. but now we can go the step further….. what a total blast! He is 18 years older than me. I am 40.
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:53 pm
I’m a 28 year old female who is dating a 51 year old man (he’s older than my mother), dating now 1 1/2 years. I’ve had a crush on him for going on 4 yrs now. I pursued him finally when i gotten enough courage. He doesn’t have money or anything fancy and we just hang out at home, fishing and etc. He tries to give me money for things but I don’t accept it because it is not why I am with him. We go out and I pay because I never want him to think that is why I am with him. I fell so hard in love with him. Watching him work, being around him, talking to him, he is so hot!! There isn’t anything i wouldn’t do for him. If he were to ask me to marry him, I would in a heartbeat. I envision being his wife, making love to him everynight. Circumstances don’t allow that to happen. He leaves so much happiness in my heart, I don’t even see old or gray when I look at him. We laugh and have a great time just being together sitting on the porch or anything that doesn’t require money. I get younger guys trying to pursue me all the time. I’m told I could be a model if i wanted. And I’ve never had trouble getting a guy. I have guys hitting on me all the time young and old wherever I go but I am not conseded. This is the first older man I have been with and even he doesn’t understand why I want to be with him because he thinks I am too beautiful and could have any man I wanted. People look at him and look at me and think it has to be for money but he has nothing. I grew close to this man and it is possible to love an older man not for money but for love. When I was younger, I wouldn’t give older men (40’s or older) a second glance. (My sister married a man 22 years older than her age and I found that sickening and thought too it couldn’t be for love. They have 2 children and been married over 10yrs.) I was just like everyone else and couldn’t see until it happened to me, age is really just a number. And you can’t change with or without money who your heart falls in love with. But now I would never go back to younger guys after being with an older man. They have to be 50 or plus. Older men (50 plus) Rock!!!
August 2nd, 2007 at 11:32 pm
You guys are making me believe in soulmates. Just when I though falling in love was hard enough, you people are changing the rules by showing there are no rules. Decency, respect, understanding, compassion, attraction, compatablity all count for the ‘real’ things in life. Age has no boundaries within healthy decency and all else just ‘happens’.
You guys are going to have people watching the ‘Lifetime’ channel or ‘WE’ if you keep it up. Next thing you know people will start having open minds and embracing social acceptance…and then you know what will have? Peace and a sense of community. Next thing you know people will start caring about one another and going the extra mile and then where will we be? Next thing you know we will start loving our neighbors and really caring about our fellow man. Be careful….this thinking can snowball.
August 8th, 2007 at 2:59 pm
I would like to meet some older, muy experienced ladies. They could teach me the things I need to learn, like how to make old school love. I am anxious to learn about many of your American traditions, likwe the Cincinnatti Bow Tie and, of course, the Cleveland Steamer.
August 9th, 2007 at 6:22 pm
hi my names sophie and im 17 and im deting a 48 year old man and im very happy with him but other people will critisize that which i cant understand because the main thing in your life is to be happy and if that is by dating an older person so be it, i totally respect anyone who is in the same situation as me and good luck to you .
August 9th, 2007 at 7:37 pm
I have dated the older men and yes they have the money and things that go along with that, but I have to say I choose the younger man, as they are just as eager to please and who wants to sleep with an out of shape old man…its not just men that want someting good to look at…lol
very fit 41 yr old
August 9th, 2007 at 7:52 pm
Wow! I recently turned 40 and thought it was all over as I felt I was starting my journey down the hill. Few women don’t even know I’m 40 as I look at least 10 years younger. I’m a Christian male whose never found my better half, which makes me the butt of 40-year-old-virgin jokes. Many people in North American society don’t think it’s normal for a male to go without sex for this long. Would you believe I’m probably the only virgin in the military? For me the emphasis was never on sex. I enjoy romance and would really be into foreplay should the opportunity arise. The slow lane is where it’s at since there’s more time to appreciate what really matters. This blog has been a breath of fresh air for me. Keep the comments coming everyone!
August 10th, 2007 at 12:13 am
I see that this subject is still a hot one and the comments just keep coming. Thanks for your responses. They’re very interesting to say the least. To some of you I would say the following: youngjealousy: Good for you. It sounds like you really love your older man. Raoul Garzita: Do you really want to do a Cleveland Steamer? I have a feeling you don’t know what it actually is, because it’s not pleasant (I’ve never tried it!). Sophie: Hats off to you for dating an older man, but I would keep the fact that you’re only 17 to yourself. In most states, your boyfriend could be in a whole lot of trouble for being with a girl who’s under 18.
And finally, to Dawn: Hey, if you like the younger guys, more power to you. I’m sure you can teach them some things that they’ll find useful in the future!
August 10th, 2007 at 7:19 pm
I like the old babes. They rock my world and give me wood!
August 10th, 2007 at 8:26 pm
ALL the younger women dating older guys are completely blinded by love. They ALL think it’s going to be perfect FOREVER, but long term, it’s doomed 85-95% of the time.
You cannot escape Father Time’s clutches. Trust me.
August 10th, 2007 at 8:27 pm
I mean 10-15 years diff, it’s nothing. But 20+, problems will rise SOON.
August 12th, 2007 at 12:26 am
it’s so good knowing there are people like me out there…. I’m in love with a 15 yrs older man and I don’t care about his look, or his money because we just click so easy. It’s all about love, security, romance, and communication. But like everyone else, I’m having to go through the issue of people saying things, worse is that I’m 24 looking 18 and he’s 39 looking 40 and somewhat above, and another case of “40 yr old virgin”. However, that’s not what i see when i look at him… I guess love is blind. I really don’t care what strangers think, but i’m having a hard time with my family. It’s hard.
August 12th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
Il Multino finds older women tiresome and boring. They are always yacking, yacking, yacking — trying to impress you with what they know. Younger women talk less and do more. They are better by far!
August 12th, 2007 at 6:47 pm
i know many relationships with age difference..man older ..all the woman are unhappy eventually ..and if older man love them so much why would they want to subject a relatively young woman to take care of an elderly man..usually these old farts leave their respective wifes and children and find a selfish hussie to get their money ..and after a while the hussie turns into what she was all along a whore ..that wanted to escape work ..and he will be an old fool that gets help from other man ….a 50 year old man looses testosterone just like a 50 year old woman is about to go into menopause god new what he did….most older man that go there are either sociopathic or otherwise with a character disorder ……
August 12th, 2007 at 11:26 pm
I had to read this one after I read the other one by Ed. I found this one jusrt as entertaining and engaging. You should have your own dating site, Ed. Your insights are hilrious. I agree that young babes satsify a need that I can’t find anywhere else. They are fresh and clean with a lot less baggage than the older ladies. It’s a force of nature — we have no control over it.
August 13th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
This makes me laugh but somehow there are some truth in it. I won’t 100% agree on the financial bit, but surely ladies are attracted to mature, torlerant, and giving characteristics.
Please make sure he does not have too much baggage (ex and kids), otherwise, it can be really hard to handle if you are not after his money.
August 14th, 2007 at 3:59 am
well i can honestly say that even at my young age (23) i still fancy younger girls. Its look and good bodies that really count for me. I dont do older women as i feel old around tem plus a lot of them are just too bossy and selfish. Besides not all younger girls are gold diggers. Some of them date men with less money then men much younger then them and when im older ill be going out with girls much younger then me even if they are young enough to be me daughter.
August 15th, 2007 at 6:06 am
I’m a 41-year-old beautiful woman married to a 62-year-old distinguished man; 6 years now. This posting is TOTALLY true! He loves me and dotes over my daily needs. He’s the BEST lover! I do have an AARP card! I do dine at Morton’s weekly. We vacation well and I’ve never been happier! Older men is where it’s at!
August 18th, 2007 at 8:38 pm
This is totally TRUE that: - I divoced my ex last year. I got married when I was 23 and he was 48, hence, 25 years of difference. The relationship lasted 7 years. He was a nice guy, very caring and loved me a lot. It ended because I could not handle his baggages: his 3 ex wives, and 6 children. It was too much for me ( in my 20s) to go through all these and a grandma in my early 30s… well, he is married the 5th time to someone younger (none of my business). But I have to say, my view of young women and old men is a very mixed one…. It has many ‘plus’ if the chemistry is right, but, if the baggage is too much and you do not have supports from you friends and families –it’s difficult. all in all, do not go against the norms.
The article is witty, and might be true to some extent, but not all young women are there for money. Some older guys are a lot more mature, polite and nicer.
August 21st, 2007 at 12:17 am
The younger the better I always say. I’d rather have three 20-year olds than one 60-year old any day!
August 21st, 2007 at 11:53 am
I married a man 14 years older than I was when I was twenty. At the time the age difference didn’t seem to matter. Time wore on though and we seemed to have less in common. I remember receiving a pant suit (!) in a gawdy color and didn’t want to hurt his feelings by telling him I wore jeans not middle aged stretch pant things. Problem was, he couldn’t see me! (After all, I lived in jeans and t-shirts everyday. Shouldn’t have been too hard to figure out!) He simply was trying to turn me into a woman his age. I wanted to play tennis and go bike riding. He wanted to go fishing with the guys and leave me home, waiting to cook the fish. He thought I was crazy when I said I wanted to go fishing too.
Now the odd part here is that after our divorce, he later told me that he’d been most attracted to my youthfulness and the way I was so naive. It has bothered me every since, because upon turning fifty I did a lot of thinking about my relationship with him and as well as dating relationships. I was a typical cheerleader type in appearance, and well, due to middle age and refusal to live on yogurt, apples, and water for the rest of my life, I’ve added a few pounds and…I look my age(!) for the first time in my life!
Is it possible that men never were attracted to me for my personality and values and interests? Or was it just the physical thing? Sad, if this is the case. I truly am procrasting in even thinking about another relationship, since I figure there will be a million younger women constantly catching the attention of the man I’m with, and sorry, but that would just seem odd playing 2nd fiddle to some imaginary love of his life.
Maybe I’d do better to follow the lead of the older men, and in my case, play mother to a younger man. lol I could deal with that!
August 21st, 2007 at 5:32 pm
I’ll let you go fishing with us, Riley. And I promise to never buy you stretch pants. I don’t even care that you’ve put on a few lbs!
August 22nd, 2007 at 11:03 am
Well, thank you, Steve! It’d be a pleasure. I actually do wear stretch pants (jogging pants) these days sometimes, but it isn’t all about glamour and fashion anymore. Good grooming, yes, but it sure is nice to finally be okay with who I really am!
August 25th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
Bears don’t go through the young-old trip, because we love our boyfriends for all of the right reasons. The gay community doesn’t okay these games that you hetero’s thrive on!
August 28th, 2007 at 12:44 am
Young people with old souls are the perfect combination.
August 28th, 2007 at 6:11 pm
Why do people insist on forcing stereotypes based on age? Comments up here range from older women being bitter and over-the-hill to younger women carrying diseases and only dating older men for money and/or experience. Is it such a long shot to consider that a person might have a certain sort of personality or motivation not based on how old they are but rather because that’s the sort of person they are? I’m 23 and in a year-long relationship with a 53 year old. We’re very happy and extremely compatible in both personal philosophies as well as interests, and while we do have some minor differences (ie. I enjoy my video games, he enjoys his Formula One) at the end of the day it’s nice to learn new things from each other.
Many people assume that a younger woman will get with an older man purely for the money, the car, the free rent, and what not. The thing is, there are older woman who do the same thing. I’ve known people in High School (male and female) that dated for the same reasons, just as I’ve known people of all ages who were with their partners out of love and because they genuinely enjoyed being together. I’m young, but I don’t enjoy going to night clubs, or drinking, or any of the other stereotypes you could class a young woman with. I like old movies and old (read: good) bands like Led Zeppelin. My point is, try to look beyond a person’s age and look at what KIND of person they are. Don’t blindly assume you know everything about a person from a quick look when you see them walking down the street.
August 28th, 2007 at 8:07 pm
I think you’ve capsulized it perfectly, Maggie. Well put. People should not be categorized, because everyone is different. The fact that you like Led Zeppelin shows you’re an eclectic gal. I remember one time when a young lady was in my room a few years back. She saw a poster of The Beatles on my wall and asked me, “Who are those 3 other guys with Paul McCartney?”
August 30th, 2007 at 12:14 am
Personally I have always been attracted to women my own age. I have dated younger women back in the day but found other than their looks we had little in common. I have been married twice, both wives were within 1 year in age of me. My second wife is half a year younger than me. We are both 54 and have been married for 20 years this spring. Sexually, most older women know what to do and make good lovers. Young gals tend to be gold diggers who get bored easy. I value the maturity of an older woman and the companionship they offer. The young stuff heard of Beatlemania, I lived through it, as well as the assassination of JFK. Admittedly I was young at the time, but at least I remember them and not read them in a history book.
If for some reason my wife passes before me, I will be looking for one of those old gals, with a bit of millage on her. The sex is superior, and they can carry a conversation when we are done.
August 30th, 2007 at 10:53 am
I am a 23 year old woman and I wish to date a guy from the ages of 26 to 32 maximum!! In a bed with an old prune who grunts and groans with bad hair, sweat and pot belly’s? No way! And most oldies I see or even speak to, rarely, are perveted and I know from one experience with a 34 year-old and friend’s that they look at you with amazemnet that they are so lucky to be with a young body, which means the sex is awkward and disgusting.
Apparently it is our natural instinct for women to look for certain qualities in a man as it means that they would be strong and fertile… and old men aren’t. It goes against nature and choosing a young healthy father that would actually produce offspring. Perveted old men? No, men like Brad Pitt, which I know I can get and the way other women and men look at me, is a good thing!
August 30th, 2007 at 3:04 pm
Wow, Melissa, That really hurts. As a 48-year-old (49 tomorrow!) male, I don’t think of myself as perverted and to imagine that sex with me would be “awkward and disgusting” is a really hard thing to think about. Sounds like you’re way into looks, which is nto a criticism, but maybe you should try to look beyond the “bad hair, sweat and pot bellies” and think about a person’s personality a little bit more than what’s on the surface. If you like guys more your age that’s totally understandable, but I’m just saying maybe you should try and think about what old prunes have to offer you once in a while.
August 30th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
I’m 30 dating a man of 49. I love it! He’s wiser, more inclined to a deeper level of communication, and the maturity he offers to our relationship is unsurpassed! I won’t waste my time on men my age. Let the high maintenance women have them. I want a man who can meet my mind and there’s no question about it. Our relationship is built on the things that last beyond years. Isn’t that what women really want anyway? Dating an older man - it’s not just a fling. It’s the real thing!
August 31st, 2007 at 5:19 am
im 26 year old male dating a 17 girl i have know her for about 5 years , friends girlfreinds sister. It has always felt like there was something more beetwen us to me anyways but just recently started dating.Her parents are fine with it but some of my friends are taking it differently, i was just wondering some outside opinions thanks Jw
August 31st, 2007 at 2:44 pm
I like the older bitches.
Sometimes they can be real witches.
But, they got the riches.
And keep me all up in stitches.
(From my newest rap song, “I like dem older ho’s”)
September 2nd, 2007 at 6:14 am
This is so true and sooooo funny!!!! I have always thought that many things get BETTER with age. (i.e., wine, antiques, and men-of course)
Older men tend to be more respectful and hold traditional values, which is a major plus side. They become especially more appealing when compared to the gun toteing, rapping, swearing younger generations.
I will debate with anyone who believes that younger women (like myself-age 29) date older men b/c of “daddy” issues. Have heard of older men being called “sugar daddies.” What is very interesting about this is, the last man that I dated was approx. 30 yrs. older than myself. And…I made more money that he did…lol!!! So, maybe I was his “sugar girl.”
It is my belief that nobody should be judged or put into a boxed category. So, please…the next time you see a younger woman with a mature man, don’t jump to conclusions. It is probably not because she is after his money. She most likely just wants a good conversation with a well-mannered man. Plain and simple facts.
September 2nd, 2007 at 9:08 pm
I’m 46 and dating a 66 year old man. I’m fortunate in that he really does not have any of the negative traits listed in the 50 reasons. So far, I love the age difference—-and, for the record, it has not affected our sex life!
September 3rd, 2007 at 7:44 am
I’m 45 but look early 30’s and its kind of a curse. I feel left behind in some ways. I have also found that woman around my age are generally cold and bitter or as some would say in a hurry for you to make a commitment. I’ve been thru one marriage to a manic depressant 10 years younger than me and of course that didn’t go so well. I loved her energy though. I just met a 22 year old and she is great. We do have a lot in common. She likes a lot of the 80’s metal bands as I do and she doesn’t believe all the BS the government has been feeding us recently. I am so comfortable around her and I can just be myself. I have nothing to prove. Older woman are always looking for something that you did that reminds them of their ex husbands. Then they get all psycho. I left my baggage somewhere in the past and moved on. If anything I have a good friend with the younger girl and yes she is beautiful but not a knock out. I noticed her inner beauty first though. Man I really like this girl and that is so hard to find these days.
September 3rd, 2007 at 11:48 am
Most women nowadays are dating old men to bring success to their life and acquire a beneficial experience .They know that there is a great fortune waiting for them when their dating old men die Thanks for the 50 tips .
Armand Rousso
September 3rd, 2007 at 6:24 pm
I happen to be dating a man 24 years my senior, and we have been together for quite a while now. While these 50 tips were amusing, there are still many barriers to overcome for couples in our situation. I am used to the looks and questions by now, but I want people to know that there are true couples in this situation that want nothing more than to really make their relationship work. I find my boyfriend to be ambitious, charming, intelligent, and very attractive (which are all qualities I happen to posess). I do not want to be with someone because of what they can offer me, rather I chose to be with him because we both want to same things in life. I can take care of myself, but I want someone with the same interests I have to share my life with. In my experience, it is usually the women his age that give us (mainly myself) the most grief. They try to rationalize to themselves why he is with me, and not with them. They think things like that it must be because I am half his age, or just because I am “hot” that he is with me. This is not the case at all. It is comical at times because it is almost like they do not feel as though I deserve a man like him due to my age. When in reality, we make each other equally happy, and have a true relationship with one another. My advice to those women in particular is to go out and find the same amount of happiness in a relationship that I have with him with, and stop being so judgemental about our situation. I just wanted people to know that these relationships do work, and are not as superficial as some may think.
September 3rd, 2007 at 10:38 pm
The comments on this page are just out of this world!! There are some really negative comments, and then of course the positive ones too. I quite enjoyed reading the bitter “older lady” comments as well…
Well, this is my take on this subject….
I have always been with women, yes, thats right, I was a lesbian.. and just recently I have discovered that I want to ‘jump the fence’ and experience a man.. and not just any man, I want an older man. A lot of you are probably asking yourself why, and keep in mind that I am only 24yrs old…. well here is why:
- older men know what they are doing(or atleast they should)
- a lot of the younger men around here are soo judgemental that all they care about is who they bed and the stories they can tell their mates the next day
-I’m at that stage in my life where, I’m not a fan of clubs and bars and I don’t want to get dragged around them and have to sit there and listen to the younger men,whom are my age, make crude comments about wanting to take my friends home and include them
- I want two older guys to have fun with, per say…
- I want a man who can please me and fulfill my inner desires, not fumble around like it’s his first time and he has no idea what he’s doing.
Older men are attractive to me… I could care less if they have a ‘pot belly’ as what someone else had recently mentioned.. if they are groaning and making noises, great!! All the better!!! Atleast it means they are having a good time.. I want someone with stability and security, not someone who is bouncing from job to job living in mommy and daddy’s basement!
September 5th, 2007 at 7:20 am
50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men, so why not give 50 Reasons Why Young Men Should Date Older Women? LOL. I have met a wonderful woman at online site Agematch.com. She is 51 now and I am 32, I was always attracted to her, and way back then, let her know I was interested, however, it seems the age is the factor, need your suggestions.
September 6th, 2007 at 5:47 am
Well…. i am one of those early twenties girls and my boyfriend is in his late 30’s. I have to say that what caught my attention was how he opened doors for me and pulled out chairs. Of course men now a days have no manners. He treats me wonderfully and teaches me things, of course i am a willing learner as well. Our conversations last for hours and i have never had such a loving relationship in my life. I have quit younger men. I don’t care if men have money or not, I just want them to treat me kindly and i’ll do the same. He grew up in the 80’s and i was born in the 80’s … but it doesn’t bother me, it has been a year and it still doesn’t bother me
So… older men are welcome…..Just treat us good.
September 7th, 2007 at 12:05 am
Vicky, yo sound all the way live, girl. Duz yo belief in luv at foist site, ight?
September 13th, 2007 at 7:20 pm
i am 58 and have been dating younger women since i was 36(she was 18) i am now dating a woman tha tis 32 and i must say i have never in my life been so sexulally satisfied as i am now
September 16th, 2007 at 4:57 am
I’m 28, and still an ultra virgin, which sucks, but I love older men, and this was hilarious. I really fit most of those. e-mail me. if u don’t mind fat and bipolar. thanx
September 19th, 2007 at 9:19 pm
I am currently dating an older man. I am 26 and he is 61. I like that I can have an intelligent conversation with him. He doesn’t fart in front of me, he opens doors, pulls out chairs, listens to me etc. We laugh a lot and I just enjoy being with him. I am a realst and know we will never marry and that this will not be a super long term thing. But right now I am very happy. And the sex is mindblowing!!
Still some of this stuff IS really funny. I never pay for anything when I am with him. And he drives an Infiniti, lives in a nice house etc. I love the stuff about text messaging. bahahaha People sometimes stare at us when we are out in public though…which can be annoying. And I think my father would drop dead if he knew I was dating someone older than him!
September 23rd, 2007 at 2:32 pm
All the ladies here sound fine. Except for that Kitty. She sound angry..mostly at men. Why yo so bitter, little Kitty? You need a big black man like TBL to make you feel better? I’ll starighten yo shit rite up, my sweet lil feline!
September 25th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
I am 44 years old and dating a older man(he’s 71!) He is sweet,loving,thoughful,etc. Most older men I know of are more accepting of a woman’s fault(weight,looks,etc.) They tend to realize that true beauty comes from within and not how you look! Most young guys want a woman who looks like a super model and have the IQ of a house plant! I’m not interested in a sugar daddy because I do have my own money. I love my older fellow because of what is in his heart! Yes,I’ve been hurt in the past too,but, who hasn’t? Being bitter and angry over the past will just eat at you like a cancer!
September 28th, 2007 at 1:28 am
young women are fresher ,-smell better are more easy to get wet skin is more like velvet they are more innocent meaning havent become bitter frustrated yet like most older women of course that youth thing makes one feel good all of us want to be immortal and younger women give you that boost what can I Say to older women-well not much just accept that you are old and stop chasing after younger men but maybe look at dating someone who is financially and emotionally stranded
October 2nd, 2007 at 6:02 am
Shit I am so frustrated. I am a 21 year old female attracted to men in their mid 30s . I don’t like men my age. I don’t know if it’s an issue I have to work out, but I don’t feel like it will ever change…I can’t help it. Older men are sexy , funny, and intelligent. What should I do?
October 2nd, 2007 at 6:17 am
I don’t know what to do? Should I avoid my feelings and wait until I meet someone my own age. I hella want this man who is 35. What should I do? Is he just in it for sex? Does he have “issues” for being attracted to someone of my age?
October 6th, 2007 at 7:09 am
LOL! “Look at me! I’m a dried up old asshat who can’t hold his own with an accomplished woman my own age, so I’m gonna run around with clueless twits and delude myself into thinking that I’m ‘cool’ and ‘hip’ because they like my money!”
Puh-leeze.
Bitter and angry? Hell, yes…because half of our society is a bunch of emotionally retarded idiots.
It gets tiring.
October 6th, 2007 at 6:55 pm
this was geat and supper fun!! but i see it was mainly about wn and money and that is not all women but i am one of those women who date older men because there to stupid to argue and they lay down and just take it because they been married but as for women being bitter im inmy 30 and i am bitter forthe fact that evry man has taught me a lesson you r all the same and only few men are real wish i knew where they lived but there needs to be a book for guys on how to be a man father and husband because you all suck at it. but i love getting a laff and if i could hide a mans teeth i surely would ha ha keep on laughing cuzwome remeber if we dont need a man but a manneeds ushow stupids that.
October 7th, 2007 at 9:23 am
Yo ladies is ruff. I am a sensitive guy who noz how 2 b caring and cool with all you maneaters. But, whoa now lil filly, I can see yo hate us all by yo harsh words, Wonda.
October 9th, 2007 at 5:19 am
Being a 26 yo woman married to a 49 yo man, I found this article to be particularly entertaining! It’s great when you can laugh at yourself. A lot of these “reasons” seem to be jokes more than anything, but there is certainly truth in there. I love being with an older man because he is a gentleman, is intelligent and sophisticated, and never pretends he is something he isn’t, because he is so confident and easygoing. He also doesn’t play video games or drool at every girl that walks by in a short skirt, big plus!
I have no interest in men close to my age because they don’t seem any more mature than they were at age 15, and guys in my generation just don’t know how to treat a woman with respect. I know there are exceptions out there, but those are few and far between (sadly), and usually already taken. I spent a few years in a relationship with someone my age, only because we had a child together, and couldn’t stand the way I had to dumb myself down to speak to him because of his seemingly limited vocabulary, nor could I stand his obsession with video games and porn, inability to control how much alcohol he consumed in one outing, or his outward macho persona to try and cover up his extreme lack of self confidence. What a loser! Might I add that I originally dated him as a teen and accidentally got pregnant before I realized what a moron he was. Having a child made me grow up and mature and realize what really mattered in life, but didn’t seem to have the same effect on him. Luckily I was never dumb enough to marry him. I learned my life lessons and moved forward, beyond any point where he was willing (or capable?) to go.
When I met my husband I fell in love within 10 minutes of speaking with him and didn’t even realize his age, but when I found out it still made not a lick of difference to me! We wasted no time getting married, and two years later and we are still very happy and in love with a beautiful baby boy. I can take comfort in the fact that my daughter now has a father figure in her life that shows her how a man should be treating a woman so she will find someone as wonderful, and my son has a real man, and a gentleman, of a father to look up to for him to grow up to be like. Age doesn’t matter in the face of love. My husband and I have so much in common and love the time we spend together, the family we have created, and we can talk about anything and everything. We compliment each other so well. Were one has a weakness the other has the strength, and we are always there to catch one another.
Oh, and my husband was married before with two children from that marriage, and his ex is quite nice and they get along just fine. So, things didn’t work out for them. They both got over it and moved on, and neither are bitter about it. Just because someone has been divorced doesn’t mean they are damaged or that there is anything “wrong” with them.
I don’t understand why May/December relationships would make anyone angry. Just do what makes you happy and let others do the same. Live and let live.
October 10th, 2007 at 3:14 pm
Excellent post, Zenmomma. Your points are well taken! What works for one couple may not work for another, but why should people fall prey to stereotypes when everyone is different? Sounds like you found your soul mate, and that is what makes it work so well. I have heard the same thing from so many women — that young men today don’t know how to treat women, and I have also seen it for myself here in San Francisco. Is this the way their parents taught them to behave or did they learn it from their peers?
October 12th, 2007 at 7:40 pm
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October 16th, 2007 at 9:55 pm
Yo rockin’ it bro. You in the know. Who knew where this story will go? I have lived a lot of this stuff. My buddy told me about this article and said it was the kind, and he was right! I dug it, man! Just like I dig the yunger hunger!
October 18th, 2007 at 11:54 am
Thanks for the tips. I just met my guy who is much older than me at Agelessmatch.com. Everything goes well between us. I like the older men, they are more mature and responsible, they know what they want and how to get.
October 21st, 2007 at 8:48 am
To the Frenchman (Cote) Do not let the American take credit for much–as he claims for saving you in WWII–nice to sit on the sidelines until the fight is almost over then decide to join in and try take credit.
As far as the age of a man and women whatever works individually, go for it. Please do not judge anyone else for the choice they make!!
October 24th, 2007 at 12:52 am
Live and let live. I am 55 years old and married and whenever you can find happiness or pleasure, go for it!
October 24th, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Hey, stumbled across this and had to throw in my two cents.
I’m 20 and most men I’m attracted to are older than me. I like maturity and conversation. The ‘but you’ll have nothing in common’ argument gets me; I don’t drink much and I’m not into partying - that rules out 90% of guys my age. And I hate rap/hip-hop. I’ll take Bowie over Kanye West, no contest. Forget watching your wallet - you better keep an eye on your record collection. And your bookshelves.
But that said, I’m in my second year of university and I’ve met guys my age who I’m attracted to for the same reasons. Age shouldn’t matter, to either of you.
October 26th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
When a man dates a woman half his age who is the same age as his daughters, I wish he would think about how this makes them feel. It often seems to be the case that the younger woman cares nothing about the feelings of the family, but only what she is getting out of the relationship. Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment…a commitment to loving another person and putting their needs above those of ourselves.
October 30th, 2007 at 12:21 am
lol being one of those 20 something i better get old fast or get a move on because -i want mine too-
that was great
October 30th, 2007 at 8:00 pm
Hey, I’m an older guy, and I like women, period. Younger, older, I don;t care as long as they enjoy having fun, aren’t concerned with labels and are adventurous. The younger ones may have a little more energy, but generally I prefer older women, ’cause they’ve got a more developed mind and I find I have more in common with them. Plus, believe it or not, the sex is usually better! My only complaint about some of the women my age is that many of them are hung up on some of the old-school feminist notions that a liberated woman shouldn’t try to please a man. And that’s a huge mistake. Both people in a relationship should go out of their way to make their partner happy.
October 30th, 2007 at 11:28 pm
I CAN UNDERTAND WHERE YOUR COMING FROM I
I’M 22YRS OLD FEMALE STILL A VIRGIN AND NEVER BEEN IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP BUT THE GUYS I’VE DATED ARE USUALLY MY AGE OR A 1-5YRS OLDER, BUT MY OPTIONS ARE NOT GREAT BUT THEN AGAIN IT COULD BECAUSE IM IN VEGAS. I FIND MYSELF BEING MORE COMFORTABLE WITH IDEA OF DATING AN OLDER MAN (NO OLDER THAN 60). I LIKE THE IDEA OF BEING PAMPERED BUT THAT WOULDNT BE THE ONLY REASON FOR DATING SOMEONE THAT WOULD JUST BE A QUALITY I WOULD LOOK FOR. NO MATTER THE AGE WE WOULD STILL HAVE TO BE COMPATIBLE YOUNG MEN ARE MISSING SOMETHING DONT GET ME WRONG THERE NICE TO LOOK AT BUT I WANT MORE. YOUNG GUYS ALL THEY WANT IS SEX, THEY ALL ARE FINDING THEMSELFS. I WANT SOMEONE WHOES FOUND HIMSELF AND READY TO TEACH ME WHAT HE’S LEARNED AND MAYBE WE COULD LEARN SOMETHING TOGETHER…..WITH MY FRINEDS THEY ALL LOOK AT ME FUNNY I LOVE OLD BLACK AND WHITE MOVIES EVEN SOME SILENT FILMS, I LOVE ALL TYPES OF MUSIC. ONE THING PEOPLE MISCONSTRUDE ABOUT YOUNG WOMEN JUST BECAUSE WE NEVER HEARD OF A SONG DOESNT MEAN WE WONT LIKE IT OR UNDERSTAND IT THE SAME GOES FOR OLDER MEN WANTING TO DATE YOUNGER WOMEN. THE IDEA IS TO GROW FROM EACH OTHER. AND JUST BECAUSE I HAVE A PREFERENCE (WEALTHY, WILLING TO PAMPER) DOESNT MEAN IT CANCELS OUT THE OHTER PRREFERNCES I HAVE LIKE(HONESTY,CARING,COMPASSIONATE, FUNNY,SPONTANEOUS,INTELLIGENT etc.) ALL THESE ARE GUIDELINES CLIFFNOTES OF A SORT NOTHING CARVED IN STONE WHAT EVER HAPPENS HAPPENS WHO EVER YOU MEET YOU MEET
October 31st, 2007 at 12:36 pm
Hi, I’ve been living with a woman 20 years younger than me for ten years, I’m 50 now, been with her since she was 20, Left her initially after 3 years as I don’t want any more kids, (I’ve had 4 kids with 3 partners before I met her) Thought it was unfair that I was not letting her settle down and have kids etc. but she still wanted to get back with me although I moved cities for 3 years and had no contact with her so she contacted me through friends. She is great and a looker as well with a great body. We get on really well and have just built a house together. Her girlfriends all 30’s are boyfriendless and jealous and always giving me the eye which I do not return as I am not interested in them. I may stay with her and I may leave her because at this stage of my life I know what relationships are about. If they are not good then they are not working so get out. The only time in my life I have been with women older than 30 was in my teenage years and it was great then. I will always be with young women. It works……
November 1st, 2007 at 3:12 am
TO THE FRENCHMAN……….MAY THE FLEAS OF A THOUSAND CAMELS INFEST YOUR ARM PITS………………………..
November 1st, 2007 at 11:16 pm
Huahahahhaa, this is so funny, but i do believe that young girls should date young guys too, n older guys should stop thinking about getting laid, ur time is near man, u guys should think more about the after life..leave all the young girls to US!
November 1st, 2007 at 11:28 pm
Well Ive been dating an older girl for the past 3 years of my life and I’m 22. Well the thing here is that, it doenst matter how old that person is what really matters is whether he or she is mature enough to commit in a relationship. Not all younger guys are immature, stupid and ignorant. My gf is 3 years older than me and sometimes I feel like I am way more mature than she is, we even talked abuot our future, plans and marriage. And we seem to be in the same channel.
So i hope girls out there wont think that all young guys are immature and stupid and they all should go for older guys. There’s still a lot of mature, handsome, caring, loving young guys out there for you girls.
November 3rd, 2007 at 12:31 am
Youse said it like it was McGraw. You hit it right out of the park. These younger babes need to gravitate toward us older playahs because we can provide and keep them mentally engaged. Young punks don’t know their a– from a hole in the ground, so what can they really offer a young hottie?
November 6th, 2007 at 4:49 pm
older men dont want someone their own age because we can actualy think for ourselves. we can take care of ourselves, we make our own money we raised the kids we know what is going on we fullfill our responsibilities.News flash gentlemen the younger women get older too they lose their shape they become less fun as time goes on and eventually they will want an emotional commitment. Thank Goodness I have a brain!!!!!!!
November 6th, 2007 at 4:51 pm
by the way I am 43 years old I am an athlete with a killer body who husband left for a 25 year old girl hope she has fun with him…i have all his money.
November 13th, 2007 at 10:19 pm
Julie:
You sound tight. Wanna hook up?
November 15th, 2007 at 6:19 am
I think this is very funny stuff, on the other i dont agree with anything said i am one of those that believe that a young women can fall in love with a older man and not have any economical desires behind such relationship. i’m 20 yrs old and currently have a relationship with an awesome man that 43 yrs old. His not rich , has 101 complication in his life and i wouldnt changed a thing about him , i’m truly in love and thank god his a part of my life. And to respond to a lot of this older women commenting about their intelligence , i’m also a single mom, which supports herself does not depend on her 43 yrs old b/f 4 anything economical and i think its unfair to stereo type all of us as golddigging hotties because were younger.
November 15th, 2007 at 6:28 am
So julie: news flash at the age of 20 i live on my own in beautiful home in miami beach fl. i support myself take care of myself raise my 2yr old child alone as a single parent have a fullfling carrer as a family attorney and though i realize experience in life comes with time with my 20 yrs ive probally accomplished things that most 30 or 40 yrs old women have not .
so younger women definetly can fall in love with an older man and be a pure honest love i couldnt be more in love.
November 16th, 2007 at 6:37 pm
You sound fine too, Leslie. Wanna hook up?
November 20th, 2007 at 3:49 am
LMAO. i can’t help but smirk at this entry.
young women are portrayed as selfish, self-absorbed, gold-digging objects,
and young men are portrayed as a-holes with no brains, money and/or confidence.
as for the comments, i ‘laughed’ even harder…
some claim that old women are ‘hags’ that are ‘45 to 70,nothing but overweight,almost obese,uncaring witches’. even worse, ‘older single women in this country to be bitter, over-opinionated, pushy and selfish’.
what is MOST amusing is that, a guy says he likes ‘eye candy’, and that