A World of Warcraft Dating Story
by Beth Lilley
When he met me I was a Night Elf Druid and he was a Human Priest, standing outside the ruins of a temple to powerful gods. He was the leader of a group sent to fight the invasion of evil insects onto our world, Azeroth. When approached me and asked if I would join their quest and heal those that were injured during the battle, I readily agreed. This was my chance to show my value as a healer of druidic magic, and an opportunity to loot some plunder from the bug lords we killed…playing World of Warcraft can create interesting dating experiences.
World of Warcraft is a massively multiplayer online role-playing game, or MMORPG. This means that you create a character, enter a game-based universe, and interact with other players around the world. World of Warcraft (WOW) does not have to be for the anti-social, and in some cases you can find an opportunity for dating and romance.
Before we met, my boyfriend and I were in the same guild, or group of people who quest together and use voice programs to communicate with one another. Before we talked person-to-person we spent a lot of time in our guild fighting forces of destruction and evil. Our quests took us from the steaming cauldrons of dragons’ lairs to Dwarven castles built into the snowy peaks of Azeroth. Our conversations were at first limited to talk about strategy and grouping mechanics, and what struck me about his voice was how he didn’t bandy words or try to please everyone. He saw things for what they were and initiated necessary change. I liked that.
This went on for almost 9 months, with my interest in him mounting, before I asked for his number and picked up the phone. I was so nervous! We ended up talking through the entire night. From then on we were talking at least every day, sometimes for hours on end. When I was having a particularly rough week, he sent me a stuffed bear in the mail. On it was a note telling me that it was “hard to send faith across country, but here’s a little something to hold onto when times are tough,” and to keep my “chin up and never give up hope”. I named the bear Faith. We had been sending pictures to each other for some time and hinting at meeting, but we didn’t take it seriously until after a couple months of talking on the phone. He had a few days of vacation coming up, so we made plans to meet. At this point I was totally in love with him, but I was also confused. Is it even possible to love someone you haven’t met in person? I was worried that it wouldn’t work out and afraid that maybe I had a screw lose.
Is this kind of romance natural?
Some people don’t believe in love at first sight, however, after less than a day with this man I knew I was going to marry him. Parting wasn’t as painful as I thought it would be. I was so happy that I had found my soul mate. He ended up being just as straight-forward in person as he was online and on the phone, and he was even more handsome. When he returned home, he was nervous of what I thought about our first few days together, but I simply told him I was going to marry him, and our relationship has continued to grow. He is moving closer to me in a few months, and we are thinking of marriage next year sometime. While we are apart we spend time online, developing our characters and our romance.
When people ask us how we met, we don’t really know what to say. Usually we tell them vaguely that we met through mutual acquaintances, leaving out the part that our mutual friends are dwarves and elves. In order to be truthful I would have to read to them this story, and who knows what they would say?
About the author: Beth is a student of the sciences at PSU in Portland, Oregon. In her free time she runs, reads psycho thrillers and fantasy, and plays World of Warcraft as the level 70 Night Elf Druid, Amadeus. Amadeus, unlike Beth, is tall, lithe, looks good in fur, and has a thing for female Draenei.
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May 9th, 2007 at 4:25 am
Great story! You probably got to know each other better by not meeting right away and talking online. My wife and I when we first met spent quite a bit of time a part because I was on the road so much so we spent hours talking through IM’s learning about each other.
May 9th, 2007 at 3:13 pm
Happy end, but not always happen. There are a bunch of liars in this virtual world. Cheers!
May 11th, 2007 at 4:02 am
Liked this story a lot!
May 13th, 2007 at 7:18 am
I got drawn into World of Warcraft only recently. My wife plays it all the time, so I had to join to interact with her. LOL, sort of. It’s been an interesting experience, met some cool people I’d like to hang out with in RL. I’m glad your story turned out so well.
June 5th, 2007 at 6:21 pm
Insert “dark portal” reference here
As opening sentences go, this is a grabber: When he met me I was a Night Elf Druid and he was a Human Priest, standing outside the ruins of a temple to powerful gods. Yes, boys and girls, it’s a…
July 9th, 2007 at 2:37 am
i like it!
i am wow fans!
your story has special flavor~~~
September 12th, 2007 at 5:52 pm
Same way my boyfriend and I met.
October 24th, 2007 at 3:04 am
Awesome Story I love it!!! My husband got me into the World and now I can’t get out! LOL I think you should tell people how you met it is cute and New!!!
November 7th, 2007 at 5:58 pm
LOL That’s awesome
I knew this was possible. You should tell people that you met outside the crumbling ruin of an ancient temple 
Or just tell them you met on WoW that’s freakin’ cool don’t be embarrassed.
November 11th, 2007 at 2:21 am
Datecraft.com just went live. Enough said!
wh00t!
November 27th, 2007 at 4:39 pm
Hmm.
My husband of 15 years just left me and our 5 cute kids to spend more time with a 21 year old he met on W.O.W.
It makes me sick.
I hope you get a happy ending, just be careful
December 6th, 2007 at 5:49 am
thats so awesome
thats the same way i met my boyfriend and we’ve been dating for about a year, im glad your story turned out so well and i hope mine does too!
December 6th, 2007 at 3:55 pm
That’s a really wonderful story… maybe the people at Blizzard could hold a royal grand wedding for both of you and bring forth the ultimate union between elves and human.
December 15th, 2007 at 7:41 pm
I actually have a similar story. Yours is touching and Im so happy everything is going well for you two. Luckily the man i met was only a half hour away from me.
December 23rd, 2007 at 2:07 pm
We met on wow 9 months ago, he is directly on the other side of the planet earth. We spent 10 to 12 hours talking on line almost every day, 5 hours in the morning, 6 hours at night. It took a 40 hour plane trip for him to come see me. By the time he got here I was completely in love. The anticipation was euphoric. We had talked about marriage and his move here. But the in-person chemistry just wasn’t there, we were both deeply disappointed. He just left a couple days ago, don’t think I could feel worse than I do now. Like you I could not tell anyone about it because of the stigma attached to online relationships. We are in our 40’s which is unusual in wow. Although I couldn’t do it again, it was a good way meet, to learn about someone’s true character without pressure. What an amazing game.
December 23rd, 2007 at 3:18 pm
Great post! Very interesting read
December 23rd, 2007 at 9:22 pm
My ex-boyfriend played WoW 40+ hours a week. He stopped helping me around the house. Period. Didn’t do anything at all. I passed three kidney stones and when we got home, he sat down and played WoW. He refused to drive to the market to get dinner, so I drove to it, having just been given morphine a few hours earlier.
It turns out for over a year, he was chatting online, IM, and via the phone to another player. I asked if he was cheating, he said no. He moved out, and then a month later, she came up to visit him for an extended weeked. That was two months ago, she has now left her home a thousand miles away and moved to be with him. He does not think he did anything wrong; he said we had problems. The only person who had problems was me because I was cooking, cleaning, taking of everything, while he romanced his elf sweetie. I hate this game; and, yes, I played it.
December 26th, 2007 at 2:50 am
Don’t blame WoW because your boyfriend didn’t like you anymore
January 12th, 2008 at 4:26 pm
My boyfriend now tells me he misses me, and he says he is not happy. I think he got so caught up in the mystery of meeting someone new online, he forgot all of the great things in our relationship. I don’t “blame WoW” entirely, but I think the game is harmful to people who can’t deal with the real world. I’m not taking him back.
January 31st, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Wow… u guys are all so sick! Must be such turnons chatting with paladins and mages and doing raids together. Get a life!!!
a friendly advice from medivh alliance.
February 3rd, 2008 at 12:12 am
morningstarx, thank you! It’s about time someone said it. There is something wrong with some of the crap that does go down in WoW.
February 4th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
$10 says he’s not hot and neither are you. I guess obese people need a place to find their soulmates too
February 9th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
Actually, I’ve been told I look like Kate Winslet. I work out 5x a week and I AM NOT obese.
February 24th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
kate winslet with a hairlip and thirty-four vanity pounds. kidding. you type in a totally hot and slender way -love that punctuation. i left my wife for a lady gnome on wow that turned out to be a transgender male. currently, we are trying to make things work. she/he can mage tank in gruul’s like no ones business. the extra pen!s does complicate things though.
March 5th, 2008 at 10:21 am
I love hits story it would make an interesting novel to read lol. I too am a player of WOW and your story is amazing and makes me want to play the game even more lol!
March 27th, 2008 at 12:52 am
very useful information
March 28th, 2008 at 2:26 pm
yeah right, BS story. These guys need to start getting offline and touch a boob
June 3rd, 2008 at 6:08 am
I am friends with two people who are actually married in real life from meeting on WoW, then meeting at a lan party.
They are very interesting people… but I wouldn’t recommend this for everyone lol, I really think it owuld be weird meeting anyone, or sharing a relationship with someone like that over the internet.
Anyhow great story - very interesting subject.
July 3rd, 2008 at 3:04 pm
One day while playing WoW I was asked to join a guild. I was not looking for any kind of relationship, I was more interested in getting to level 70. But, I met a great guy from our guild. We talked online for 3 months, then on the phone for another 3 months. There was great chemistry between us. Eventually, he flew out to meet me. The chemistry was even better in person. We are now talking about him moving closer to me and eventually marriage.
I truely belive you can meet your soulmate online. I don’t care what anyone thinks. To all you people who think WoW is evil, really think about why your partner is spending so much time playing….it could be your attiude.
August 16th, 2008 at 2:46 am
well im so happy for you hope everything works out for the best !!!!!
March 4th, 2009 at 11:38 pm
LOL– Wait until your soon-to-be real life romance turns out to be merely a shadow of all the wonders you experienced while engaged in the intoxicatingly exciting taboo of “online dating”.
It’s inevidable.
Ladies, don’t mess around with “men” you meet in online games, particularly World of Warcraft, as it seems to literally attract oddballs and people with IQ’s that fall just below the normal range.
::Sigh::
Too many decent women have to learn the hard way, it seems.
April 15th, 2009 at 12:39 pm
Hey man nice post, I’ve added you to my RSS reader
I have a blog about making world of warcraft gold, you can check it out if you want 
May 20th, 2009 at 4:23 am
Nice story. I’ve had both real life relationships and long distance ones over the Internet, one of the latter becoming quite serious. To those of you who think meeting a possible love interest over a MMO is ridiculous, think of it this way: Wouldn’t you want to find a mate who shares an interest with you? It’s common for two like-minded people to meet while indulging in their interests, even if that person lives across the country. That goes well for online and in real life. I try not to limit myself to the boundaries of my locale.
Yes, it’s easy to lie online, and you do meet a lot of liars. But frequently they are so obvious, I find it funny. Be skeptical, but approach online relationships with an open mind. Even if they do not blossom into anything more, plenty of friendships can be made. Last time I checked it was still socially acceptable to have penpals.
We live in the age of technology, guys. Go with the flow, you might enjoy it.
May 22nd, 2009 at 12:55 am
Hi how are you all ,, wow its really great story i like it and you really lucky girl but im know have a friend in WOW or you can say a boyfriend we met in stormwind and we know togethere about 9mounthes but i have a problem he didnot toke to me anymore i always toke always i donot know why ,so……………….can you tell me what can i do?
May 26th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
I know many people that have real life relationships that started in WoW that are quite happy. I have made many friends that I am socially active with.
To those of you who think us weird or losers or stupid, I say this: To each his/her own. Why berate us for our hobbies or dare I say lifestyle? Go do your thing and leave us to ours….the only ones who look ignorant and stupid are the ones casting the stones.
May 26th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
I met a boy in my guild. We were talking for ages- until 4am! - but the only problem is that I told him I was 16 but I’m 14.
Although we are both in year 11 ‘cos I skipped a year at primary school.
I don’t want to tell him I’m 14 though… he might stop talking to me :/
but i’ve totally fallen for him! He doesn’t live far from me either…but I know my mum wouldn’t approve.
I can’t stop thinking about him, but it’s probably a stupid teenage romance that’s destined to fizzle out I guess :(.
July 3rd, 2009 at 2:22 am
Hello Beth,
I am currently doing research on people who are in a relationships and who had met their significant others online through MMORPGs. I am interested in interviewing you and your boyfriend via IM, because your story is completely useful for my study. Let me know if you are interested- it would be wonderful if you could help me out!